The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring: Connecting Couples to Build Better Marriages - Hardcover

Parrott, Les And Leslie

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ISBN 10: 0310270464 ISBN 13: 9780310270461

Verlag: Zondervan, 2005

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A comprehensive resource to help churches build a thriving marriage mentoring program Les and Leslie Parrott are passionate about how marriage mentoring can transform couples, families, and entire congregations. The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring includes life-changing insights and essential skills for• Preparing engaged and newlywed couples• Maximizing marriages from good to great• Repairing marriages in distressPractical guidelines help mentors and couples work together as a team, agree on outcomes, and develop skills for the marriage mentoring process. Appendixes offer a wealth of additional resources and tools. An exhaustive resource for marriage mentorship in any church setting, this guide also includes insights from interviews with church leaders and marriage mentors from around the country.“The time is ripe for marriage mentoring, and this book is exactly what we need.” ― Gary Smalley, author of The DNA of Relationships

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#1 New York Times bestselling authors Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are psychologists and founders of the game-changing online assessments:  SYMBIS.com,  BetterLove.com, and Yada.com.  Their best-selling books include Love Talk, The Good Fight, Crazy Good Sex, and the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. Their work has been featured in the New York Times and USA Today and on CNN, Good Morning America, the Today Show, The View, and Oprah. LesAndLeslie.com

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A comprehensive resource to help churches build a thriving marriage mentoring program

Les and Leslie Parrott are passionate about how marriage mentoring can transform couples, families, and entire congregations. The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring includes life-changing insights and essential skills for

• Preparing engaged and newlywed couples

• Maximizing marriages from good to great

• Repairing marriages in distress

Practical guidelines help mentors and couples work together as a team, agree on outcomes, and develop skills for the marriage mentoring process. Appendixes offer a wealth of additional resources and tools. An exhaustive resource for marriage mentorship in any church setting, this guide also includes insights from interviews with church leaders and marriage mentors from around the country.

“The time is ripe for marriage mentoring, and this book is exactly what we need.” -- Gary Smalley, author of The DNA of Relationships

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The Complete Guide to Marriage MentoringCopyright 2005 by The Foundation for Healthy RelationshipsRequests for information should be addressed to:Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication DataParrott, Les. The complete guide to marriage mentoring : connecting couples to build better marriages / Les and Leslie Parrott ; foreword by Gary Smalley. --- 1st ed. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN-13: 978-0-310-27046-1 ISBN-10: 0-310-27046-4 1. Church work with married people. 2. Mentoring in church work. I. Parrott, Leslie L., 1964 -- II. Title. BV4012.27.P36 2005259'.14 --- dc22 2005020701This edition printed on acid-free paper.All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible: New Inter national Version. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.Scripture quotations marked LB are taken from The Living Bible. Copyright 1971 by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois. All rights reserved.Some anecdotes in this book are composites of real situations, but names, facts, and issues have been changed to protect confidentiality.The website addresses recommended throughout this book are offered as a resource to you. These websites are not intended in any way to be or imply an endorsement on the part of Zondervan, nor do we vouch for their content for the life of this book.All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means --- electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other --- except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher.Published in association with Yates and Yates, LLP, Attorneys and Counselors, Suite 1000, Liter ary Agent, Orange, CA.Interior design by Beth ShagenePrinted in the United States of AmericaPART ONEThe BIG PICTURE on MARRIAGE MENTORINGWisdom, like an inheritance, is a good thing.ECCLESIASTES 7:11Can you imagine giving an inheritance to another couple --- a couple not related to you? It's an unusual gift, indeed, but that's exactly what you'll be doing as a marriage mentor. As you pour your wisdom into another couple who has not yet traveled the distance you have in your own marriage, you'll impart an invaluable gift that this couple would never receive on their own. That's why we're thrilled at the thought of your interest in marriage mentoring. We also believe you'll find it to be one of the most rewarding activities your marriage will ever enjoy.Before we reveal the fringe benefits to your own relationship however (see chapter 4), we want to be sure you begin this journey with the big picture in view. So, we'll explain exactly what we mean by marriage mentoring, show you what the role entails, and clue you in to how you can avoid the common mistakes some beginning marriage mentors make. WHAT MARRIAGE MENTORING IS AND ISN'TMentoring is a brain to pick, a shoulder to cry on, and a kick in the pants.JOHN C. CROSBYEven though Rodger and Lynne Schmidt had their sights set on going to Africa as missionaries, they still struggled. 'Is this really something we should be doing?' they were asking themselves.Erik Johnson tells their story in an article he wrote for Leadership Jour nal.1 'At the same time in the same city, another couple was also wrestling with their call, though from the other end of a missionary career. Now retired, this couple was asking, 'After forty-one years as missionaries in Africa, who are we? Our home and life work are on another continent. What is our life all about?''A mentoring program at Denver Seminary brought these two couples together. And it was a great match. Through this mentoring relationship, the Schmidts' call was confirmed, and the retired couple discovered a pro found sense of significance in their new role as mentors. 'We felt encour aged, they felt validated,' notes Rodger Schmidt.And so go the benefits of mentoring.In this chapter we begin by touching on the immense need for mentors in today's culture. From there we ask what is a mentor in general and then we get specific by exploring exactly what marriage mentoring is and isn't. Finally, we attempt to define the mentoring relationship itself.TODAY'S NEED FOR MENTORSWhy do the trades have apprenticeships and professions require intern ships? Because personal attention from experienced practitioners helps learners master essential skills, techniques, attitudes, and knowledge. In every culture throughout human history, mentoring has been the primary means of passing on knowledge and skills. In the past, mentoring took place in the university where a student learned directly from the scholar. It took place in the studio where the artist poured himself into the formation of his proteges.The Bible is certainly filled with examples of mentoring: Eli and Samuel, Elijah and Eli sha, Moses and Joshua, Naomi and Ruth, Eliz abeth and Mary, Barnabas and Paul, Paul and Timothy. And, of course, Jesus and the disci ples is a supreme example of mentoring.Down through the centuries, young people have learned most through careful observation of those more experienced. Up until recently, mentor ing was a way of life between the generations. But today, mentoring, for the most part, is in short supply. Mentoring was once assumed, expected, and therefore, almost unnoticed because of its commonness. But in the modern age, the learning process has shifted. It now relies primarily on computers, classrooms, books, and media. In most cases today, the rela tional connection between the knowledge-and-experience giver and the receiver has weakened or is nonexistent.The time has come to bring back the fine art of mentoring.WHAT IS A MENTOR?Does mentoring's near disappearance mean it is no longer helpful? Abso lutely not. Ask any successful leader and he or she will tell you: a young person starting out in a career, for example, will benefit greatly from a mentor --- an older, experienced person who knows the ropes and will teach a protege how things are done.Here's a pop quiz question:A mentor is . . .a) A modelb) An encouragerc) An imparter of knowledged) All of the aboveThe answer is 'd.' A mentor may wear many different hats but the one thing that all mentors share is the ability to listen and encourage. A men tor is 'a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction,' according to the Uncommon Individual Foundation, an organization devoted to mentoring research and training. It reports that mentoring is one of the most powerful tools we have for influencing human behavior.The term mentor arises from an unlikely source. It first appeared in Homer's classic, The Odyssey, where Odysseus asked a wise man named Mentor to care for his son, Telemachus, while Odysseus was off fighting in the Trojan War. Mentor taught the boy 'not only in book learning but also in the wiles of the world.' The fabled Mentor must have done his job well, because Telemachus grew up to be an enterprising lad who gallantly helped his father recover his kingdom.But mentoring is more than the stuff of legends. A real-life mentor, one who serves as a model and provides individualized help and encourage ment, can be invaluable to a receptive mentoree.

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• Verlag: Zondervan
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2005
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 0310270464
• ISBN 13: 9780310270461
• Einband: Gebundene Ausgabe
• Anzahl der Seiten: 240
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