Gulp!: The Seven-Day Crash Course to Master Fear and Break Through Any Challenge - Softcover

Goddard, Gabriella

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0553384988 ISBN 13: 9780553384987

Verlag: BANTAM DELL, 2007

Inhaltsangabe

Are you ready to change your life?

Gulp! It’s one of those moments at the crossroads of life that call for you to step out of your comfort zone. Whether it’s taking a new business opportunity or leaving a bad relationship, you know in your heart that it’s time to take on your fears and insecurities and make the decision that can lead to the life you’ve always wanted. But how do you overcome the endless second-guessing that leaves you forever on the precipice of change?

In this practical, effective everyday guide designed to inspire real people to make real changes in their lives, Gabriella Goddard, a top executive coach and motivational expert, shows you how to access the energy, self-confidence, and courage you need to turn your Gulp! moments into opportunities for success.

Recognize the pivot points in your life—and learn to make the choices that really work for you
Understand fear triggers—and adopt the strategies that disarm them
Use your imagination to shatter the status quo—and do things you never thought possible
Cultivate the calm, well-being, and energy to overcome any challenge
Turn off the naysayers, doubters, and those who hold you back
Stop making excuses for inaction—starting NOW!

In one week’s time you can begin the journey you’ve waited your whole life to take. It’s your moment, your life, and this is the book that will help you take that first big step…Gulp!

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Gabriella Goddard, the founder of Goddard International Ltd, has helped thousands of people to face their fears and step up to the challenges in their life. After 15 years working in international markets, she made a Gulp! Decision and retrained in leadership coaching. She now runs an executive coach and personal development business. Goddard s work has been covered by most major British media. She lives in London.

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Day 1
Dare & Defy


AIMS FOR TODAY
Name the challenge.
Understand the deeper meaning beneath it.
Make the choice to "go," or "no go."

Sian was only twenty-nine when she was diagnosed with leukemia. The shock was indescribable. Yet Sian believes that it has changed her life—for the better. "This sounds strange, I know, as I am only twenty-nine, and the condition that I have most commonly affects 'old' men nearing the end of their lives," she says. "But in spite of all this, I feel incredibly lucky that I have been given a jolt which has made me realize just how precious life is." Unfortunately for her, there's a further complication. Her only hope of a cure is to have a bone marrow transplant, and her brother is not a match. That means that she has to wait, and hope, for an unrelated donor to come forward.

"It's weird," says Sian. "I don't know how long I will live, or how successful my treatment is going to be, but since my diagnosis I am the happiest I have ever been and value every moment. I feel really sad for people who go through life without realizing what is not important, and most significantly what is important."

Sian has chosen to channel her surplus energies into helping the Anthony Nolan Trust, an organization that maintains the register of potential bone marrow donors in the UK. Her mission—to spread the word about bone marrow donation and to hopefully help save people in a similar position to hers. In only four months she has run a donor recruitment clinic where over one hundred people signed up as potential donors.1 Her next venture is to organize a London Marathon team to raise funds for the trust, which she will be running in herself. (Gulp!)

As a result of her illness, Sian has learned to live and love her life, however much of it there is still to come. "My wish is that other people could open their eyes and see how lucky we all are to be alive, and not to waste time by forever striving for things that really aren't that important in the bigger picture of life."

There are many times in our lives when we are faced with a challenge. And we always have a choice: to step up and meet it head-on, pass it over or even let it overwhelm and consume us. But sometimes there are things in life you simply have to deal with in the moment. Because sometimes, there just isn't another day.

The aim of today is to get really clear on what your challenge is, who it's calling you to become, why you're feeling afraid and what choices you've got. By the end of today, be ready to make a commitment one way or another, a firm decision about your way forward. That'll be your first Gulp!

The Price of Denial

Change itself can be really uncomfortable; that's why we can spend a lot of time in denial avoiding the issue, deflecting it, pretending it doesn't exist, blaming it on someone else. By avoiding the issue we don't have to deal with the pain we think we'll have to go through to get to the outcome. Keep denying it, and it'll build up over time, often turning around to bite you on the bottom when you least expect it.

Take Bob, for example. Bob always wanted to be an accountant. He'd been studying seriously for his CPA exams and finally passed them all. But once he was there, it was a different story. "I knew the environment of accounting was killing me emotionally," recalls Bob. "But I was so hung up on how hard I'd worked to pass the exams. I didn't want to waste all that time. So I kept ignoring my feelings." In the end his body started to speak for itself, and he developed all kinds of strange stress-related symptoms. Bob knew then that if he didn't leave, his health would really suffer.

The price of denial is high. It comes in the form of suffering, stuckness and sickness.

A: SUFFERING

We've all experienced those heartfelt moments of deep disappointment when breaking up with a loved one, or deep sorrow when someone close passes away or deep regret when we let an important opportunity go by. But as we know, time passes and we eventually move on. The question is, how much time do you want to spend suffering? How much time do you want to spend carrying the emotional pain around with you? And what is it doing to you and your relationships, your health and your work?

George Eliot says, "Deep unspeakable suffering may well be called a 'baptism,' a regeneration, the initiation into a new state." That's because suffering can be overcome. Sometimes it provides a much-needed catalyst to create important changes in your life. Other times you need to be with the suffering and allow time for the healing process to take place. But the important thing is not to identify with the suffering itself, but rather to see it as a sign that something needs to change. In his book Universal Compassion,2 Geshe Kelsang Gyatso, an internationally renowned teacher of Buddhism, writes, "If the roof of our house is leaking and the water is dripping through the ceiling, we do not sit back and do nothing. We try to find the hole and mend it. Similarly with suffering, rather than be preoccupied with the suffering itself, we should apply the solution."

And it is through being with our suffering and moving through it that we dig deep, and find inner resources and an inner strength we didn't even know we possessed.

Gulp! Reflection

If you are suffering right now, where is your focus?
*Are you focused on the pain of your suffering?
*Or are you focused on finding a solution to your suffering?
*And how long do you choose to suffer for?

B: STUCKNESS

For me, feeling stuck is one of the worst feelings in the world. I find it totally exasperating. It's like getting a car stuck in the mud and not having enough traction to get it out again. So the wheels just keep spinning, sinking deeper and deeper and throwing mud back into your face. And there seems to be no way out. Being stuck is like a stalemate. You want to move forward, but you fear letting go of what you've got. So you stay where you are. Then you start to get frustrated with yourself. You dwell on it. You berate yourself for not being stronger, smarter or speedier. This further feeds your frustration. And so it spirals downward. But being stuck doesn't have to be a big issue. Often it means you're in a holding pattern, and you need to evaluate what you want, what you don't want and how you can move forward. The problem comes when you focus on the frustration of stuckness, rather than the evaluation of it and the important signals it sends. As Robert M. Pirsig wrote in the epic classic Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance,3 "Stuckness shouldn't be avoided. It's the psychic predecessor of all real understanding. An egoless acceptance of stuckness is a key to an understanding of all Quality, in mechanical work as in other endeavors."

Gulp! Reflection

If you are feeling stuck right now, where is your focus?
*Are you focused on the frustration of your stuckness?
*Or are you focused on what your stuckness is telling you?
*And how long do you choose to stay stuck for?

C: SICKNESS

I'll never forget the first time I read Louise Hay's book You Can Heal Your Life,4 where she introduces the concept that "dis-ease" in your life can manifest itself as illness in your body. She writes, "The body, like everything else in life, is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs. Every cell within your body responds to every single thought you think and every word you speak." The accumulation of negative thoughts and beliefs and stored emotions like anger, jealousy, fear and hatred can lead to disease appearing in different parts of your body depending on the negative pattern...

Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: BANTAM DELL
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2007
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 0553384988
• ISBN 13: 9780553384987
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 304
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