Tranquility by Tuesday: 9 Ways to Calm the Chaos and Make Time for What Matters - Hardcover

Vanderkam, Laura

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ISBN 10: 0593419006 ISBN 13: 9780593419007

Verlag: Portfolio, 2022

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“An indispensable manual...Tranquility by Tuesday offers plenty of inspiration for a more serene life, and down-to-earth and evidence-backed advice for actually making it happen."
--Oliver Burkeman, New York Times bestselling author of Four Thousand Weeks

For anyone who’s sick of letting to-do lists dictate their time, Laura Vanderkam, the bestselling author of What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, shares nine strategies for reclaiming your hours

Do you find yourself hoping that someday, life will be less hectic? One day, you say, you’ll finally have time for the activities that you love – writing that book, completing that triathlon, traveling with friends. But if the COVID-19 pandemic has taught us anything, it’s that life is unpredictable. If we’re not careful, dull, unfulfilling tasks can quickly occupy our precious hours, derail our best-laid plans, and make life feel like a slog.
 
In Tranquility by Tuesday, Laura Vanderkam explains that if you want something to happen, you need to design your life to make it happen. Work crises, childcare emergencies, and home repairs are inevitable, and the mundane tasks of life – cooking, cleaning, laundry – aren’t going anywhere. To make time for what matters, you need a resilient schedule, not a perfect schedule. Based on a time diary study of over 150 people, Vanderkam shares nine strategies for building opportunities for joy, nourishment, and fulfillment into your week, such as:

• Three times a week is a habit

• One big adventure, one little adventure

• Effortful before effortless

 
This is more than a time management book about “how to do it all.” It’s a look at how real people changed their lives using Vanderkam’s nine rules, and how you can do the same. It’s about intentionally living the life that you want to live, and becoming an autonomous steward of life’s possibilities.

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Laura Vanderkam is the author of several time management and productivity books, including The New Corner Office, Juliet's School of Possibilities, Off the Clock, I Know How She Does It, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, and 168 Hours. Her work has appeared in publications including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Fast Company, and Fortune. She is the host of the Before Breakfast podcast and the co-host, with Sarah Hart-Unger, of the Best of Both Worlds podcast.

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Rule 1: Give Yourself a Bedtime

 

 

Going to bed earlier is how grown-ups sleep in.

 

Somewhere, on the blurry edge of memory, I picture a scene. I am in my little brother's childhood room. He and I are creating elaborate plot lines for our Playmobil figures. By day, they run a school, a hotel, a tap dancing ensemble. Then fictional evening descends. We put the children to bed. The adults? We announce, with knowing smiles, that they are going to stay up all night.

 

I laugh at this now, this idea that staying up all night would be a privilege of adulthood. Come actual adulthood, I feel like I spend much of my energy some days convincing the younger people in my house to go to bed so I can go to bed. There is always something else that has to happen. The toddler wants to be rocked again. Someone else's homework must go in the backpack. Someone has forgotten to tell me something very important, some story that takes meandering minutes to come to its conclusion.

 

I love sleep. I'd like to think sleep loves me back. But sleep and I have had to work hard to maintain our relationship during these years with babies and-my own particular middle-aged dilemma-early-rising little kids and night-owl teenagers. I have become an acute observer of sleep's quirks. Some fantastical dream suddenly introduces the plot twist of a crying child-and then, in a few minutes, the dream itself has disappeared and I am in my room with an actual sleepless kid. During the infant phases when I was waking and falling back asleep multiple times per day, I learned to recognize when, exactly, sleep was starting to visit. My mind would drift somewhere related to my life and then, as a familiar weight settled, I would see some scene that could not really be happening. I dreamed lucidly at times, particularly during the naps my poorly sleeping babies necessitated. I was aware, but thinking things I normally would not.

 

I know the bleary resignation of facing down a day without enough sleep. I know the particular despair of doing it multiple nights in a row. And yet I have seen a curious paradox with this-one that affects a great many people during the busy years of raising a family and building a career, and that has important ramifications for how we can best manage our schedules.

 

I track my time on weekly spreadsheets. All of my time. Since April of 2015, I have recorded how I have spent every half hour of my life. There's no reason for anyone who doesn't study time professionally to do more than a few weeks of this, but the upside of my long-running data gathering is that I know exactly how much I sleep and when I sleep. My data set contains thousands of days. These recorded years include the babyhoods of my two youngest children, including all those middle-of-the-night wake-ups and miserably early weekend mornings.

 

There have been rough stretches. Yet, one way or another, I hit my sleep set point: 7.3-7.4 hours/day averaged over any given eight weeks or so. That's squarely in the range (seven to nine hours a day) that sleep literature suggests most adults need.

 

The most rigorous time-diary studies have found that most people do get enough sleep from a quantitative perspective. The American Time Use Survey, which has thousands of people talk through how they spent the previous 4 a.m. to 4 a.m. day, usually covering all 365 days of the year, found that in 2020, the average person slept 9.01 hours in a twenty-four-hour period (up from 8.84 hours in 2019). In 2019, employed parents with kids under age six averaged 8.32 hours (8.26 for men; 8.39 for women). No one ever believes me when I mention this statistic, but my own time-diary studies of people with jobs and kids, which have had people record how they spent the previous day, hour by hour, have found averages that are fairly close to eight hours too. For instance, when I had women who held intense professional jobs, and who had children at home, track their time for a week for my book I Know How She Does It, I found that they averaged 7.7 hours of sleep per day.

 

This raises the obvious question: Why, exactly, do we feel so tired?

 

Because there is no doubt that many of us do. It is an important question, because sleep is foundational for all other good habits. Fatigue makes it harder to think strategically about the future, or to make good choices with time. Being adequately rested boosts performance on cognitively difficult tasks. We are less distracted. It is simply easier to be productive when you've gotten enough sleep.

 

I've studied thousands of time logs over the years in an attempt to reconcile how people can, when their time is tracked, seem to be sleeping enough, and yet still claim, in many polls, to sleep low amounts on a "typical" night, or to talk of sleep, as sociologist Arlie Hochschild once wrote, "the way a hungry person talks about food."

 

I have come away convinced that the culprit is disorderly sleep. A reasonable average hides that people are often undershooting and then overshooting in a way that leads to fatigue on some days and an inability to maintain good routines on the others. This reality is obvious enough for people with babies, or those who do shift work, but is surprisingly widespread. For instance, in one of my time-diary studies, I found that 22 percent of people slept at least 90 minutes more, or less, on Tuesday than they did on Wednesday. That is a big gap.

 

Asked about a typical night, someone might report sleeping from midnight to 6 a.m. A time log shows that this did, indeed, happen twice in the past week. But two other nights, this person crashed on the couch in front of the TV at 10 p.m., or fell asleep for an hour while putting a child to bed, or hit snooze three times on Thursday, with weekends looking completely different. The mental picture is six hours. The average might be 7.5, but each day is undershooting or overshooting in a way that wreaks havoc on someone's ability to function. If people are always undershooting or overshooting, that would explain why the National Sleep Foundation's annual Sleep in America poll found that, in 2020, people reported feeling sleepy, on average, three days per week. Overshot days don't feel particularly great either, when people sleep through their alarms, or however else their bodies force them to substitute sleep for other activities. Far better to hit the ideal each day.

 

We can't always control when we sleep. But given how important sleep is for flourishing, when it is possible to steer clear of that drop-tower carnival ride of skimping and then catching up, life can feel more calm. Since most adults need to wake at set times for work or family responsibilities, the only variable that can move is the time we go to sleep the night before.

 

In other words, despite what I fantasized about with my Playmobil characters, even adults need a bedtime. They need to go to bed on time, at a set time. And so that is Tranquility by Tuesday Rule 1: Give yourself a bedtime.

 

If you would like to experience the additional energy and optimism that comes from being well rested, choose a time that you would like to go to sleep more nights than not. Then, commit to getting in bed by that time unless you have a compelling reason not to.

 

 

How to put yourself to bed

 

Figuring out and implementing a bedtime is a simple, four-step process.

 

1. Decide when you plan to wake up most weekdays

 

Be honest. While it might be fun to fantasize about waking up at 4 a.m. to run ten miles and meditate for thirty minutes before making yourself a...

Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: Portfolio
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2022
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 0593419006
• ISBN 13: 9780593419007
• Einband: Gebundene Ausgabe
• Anzahl der Seiten: 288
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