Loving Your Black Neighbor as Yourself: A Guide to Closing the Space Between Us - Softcover

Griffin, Chanté

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0593445597 ISBN 13: 9780593445594

Verlag: PRH Christian Publishing, 2024

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Discover a boundless love for your Black Neighbor with this inspiring and actionable guide to moving toward racial healing.

“Griffin’s work invites us to embark on a transformative journey toward a more inclusive and loving Christian community.”—J. W. Buck, PhD, author of Everyday Activism

Jesus calls you to love your neighbor, and in the fight against racial injustice, that call includes your Black Neighbor: your Black colleagues, the Black congregants at church, the Black family in your neighborhood. Yet maybe you’re unsure of how best to show your love, or maybe you fear either saying or doing the wrong thing. 

In Loving Your Black Neighbor as Yourself, Chanté Griffin equips you to see and love your Black Neighbor with God’s deep, holistic love. Using Black Love Lenses birthed from African American cultural values, you’ll learn meaningful ways through which you can see and care for your Black Neighbor:

• Intimacy: cultivate intentional closeness and community
• Honor: show overflowing respect and love
• Stand Up: use your voice and influence to advocate
• God’s Gifts: allow God’s resources to flow through you
• The Spirit of Love: love lavishly through intercessory prayers

Through guided readings, prayers, and heart checks, you’ll undergo a spiritual and relational transformation that grows a deeper love for your Black Neighbor and yourself. Are you ready to answer Jesus’s call?

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Journalist and natural hair advocate Chanté Griffin’s socially conscious work focuses on the intersection of race, culture, and faith. She’s a contributing writer for The Washington Post and Faithfully Magazine. Her articles, essays, and interviews have appeared in leading publications, including HuffPost, Los Angeles Times, EBONY, Good Housekeeping, and Parents. An emerging thought leader on race, Chanté is interviewed regularly and frequently cited in magazines, newspapers, and podcasts.

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Chapter 1

Love Yourself


Create in me a clean heart, O God.
Renew a loyal spirit within me.

—Psalm 51:10, NLT

I ran into walls as a toddler. And into sliding glass doors. Turns out I needed glasses, like my father, his mother, and her siblings. And not the cute, stylish kind you can buy from a hip brand like Warby Parker. Imagine a two-year-old with a small body, a big head, and lenses so thick her eyes doubled in size!

True to my four-eyed persona, I was kind of a nerd in school. I loved to get good grades on tests, assignments, and pop quizzes—plus, I was doing all the extra credit because the only thing better than an A is an A+. Case in point: When I was around ten or eleven, I was determined to ace the eye exam at the optometrist’s office, even though I have astigmatism, and let’s not forget—I used to run into walls. When I arrived at the eye doctor’s office that afternoon for my annual exam, I started to memorize the eye chart: “D, C, T, P . . .”

“What are you doing?” my mom asked as she caught me reciting the letters. My mouth remained silent, but my face clearly communicated that she had caught me.

“Don’t do that,” she warned. “The doctor needs to know what you can and can’t see so he can give you the right lenses to see clearly.”

When dealing with difficult racial issues—be it racism, unconscious bias, the sin of partiality, racial prejudice, microaggressions, or anything else—everybody wants to ace their eye exam. No, I didn’t say anything racist! you declare. No, I didn’t do that racist thing! you insist. And no, I’m definitely not racist! you protest. It’s easy to hold shame for not seeing your Black Neighbor clearly. It’s also easy to avoid admitting there’s a deficiency or to cover up the deficiencies in your vision by reciting “D, C, T, P . . .”

But when someone calls you out for saying or doing something racist, you can choose how to respond: Do you allow fear, pride, and shame to wrap themselves around you like a protective blanket, refusing to confess, furthering the pain you’ve caused? Or do you love yourself, trample shame under your feet, and eagerly undergo an eye exam so you can receive new lenses?


Love Yourself Fully

When we were children, our parents or guardians regularly took us to the doctor and dentist to make sure our bodies were functioning well. They did this because they loved us and they knew we wouldn’t go on our own. Think about it—how many eight-year-olds are like, “Mom, you know what I want for my birthday? A trip to the dentist!”

But today as adults, we take ourselves to the doctor, the dentist, the optometrist, the cardiologist, and more. We take ourselves to appointments because we want to be well. We also recognize that when we aren’t well, it affects us and everyone around us. For instance, if we don’t realize that we need new lenses to see clearly, we will go around running into walls and people. If we stay in denial about the fact that we need lenses, we will continue running into things, hurting ourselves and others. Loving ourselves doesn’t stop at doctor visits, though.

In contemporary American culture, we commonly define loving yourself as taking good care of your physical and emotional health by eating well, exercising, carving out “me time,” visiting a therapist, and maybe retreating to the spa with your friends or to the man cave with your buddies. Yes, loving yourself can include all of this, but loving yourself also means tending to your spiritual and relational health just as you would your physical and emotional health. Loving yourself requires a multidimensional, holistic love.

The concept of multidimensional love isn’t new. In Deuteronomy 6, when God’s commandments were given to the Israelites, he said to love him multidimensionally, “with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.” In fact, loving God multidimensionally is so important that Jesus called it out again.

In Luke, a religion expert attempted to test Jesus on the law, asking Jesus what he must do to live with God forever. Jesus agreed with the expert’s answer to the question, including the addition of loving one’s neighbors: “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ ”

God’s love for us, and our love for God, is the foundation from which we love ourselves and our neighbors. Loving ourselves multidimensionally, in partnership with the Spirit of Love, is one of the truest ways we love ourselves.

If you love yourself, then you are willing to look at the parts of yourself that need a doctor’s tender, loving care. You are willing to receive the wellness package the Spirit of Love has for you, which includes being honest with yourself, God, and your Black Neighbor about the full condition of your heart.

Hearts have eyes—if not literally, then definitely metaphorically, according to Paul Baloche, who penned the popular worship song “Open the Eyes of My Heart.” Our hearts hold our innermost beliefs, and they reveal how we see and resultantly treat our Black Neighbors. If we allow our hearts to be examined, they reveal how much (or little) love we have for those neighbors and the ways our love needs to be purified. Our hearts house our fears, our insecurities, our pride, and the parts of us we don’t wanna acknowledge. In fact, we don’t always know what’s in our hearts until someone shows us the results of our eye exam.

Beloved, love yourself by being honest about any ways you haven’t viewed your Black Neighbor properly. Allow yourself to be wrapped in God’s forgiveness and love. When you seize the opportunity to confront the sin of racism as an opportunity to love yourself, then despite how horrible getting called out may feel, you will embrace it as a gift from God. A gift that can close the space between you, God, and your Black Neighbor.


Prayer Pause

Confronting any racism in your heart is no easy task. You may think, Chanté, I don’t need to do this—I’m fine! Or your physical heart may be racing a little because you’re afraid of what you may see. Either way, I encourage you to be open to what the Spirit of Love may show you. Whatever it is, it will be good for you and your Black Neighbor.

Before we move forward, let’s pray for guidance and support from the Spirit of Love. First notice the posture of your body: Are you tense? Holding your breath?

Take a deep breath, in and out, allowing any tension to leave your body. Then pray this breath prayer. (Breath prayers promote calm and can help your physical body connect with your spirit. As you inhale and exhale, pray the words silently.)


Breathe in:

Spirit of Love, talking about racism is hard.


Breathe out:

Remove any fear or shame I may have.


Breathe in:

Give me courage for an eye exam.


Breathe out:

Give me grace to love myself anew.


Love Yourself: Recognize That Your Heart Could House Racism

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Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: PRH Christian Publishing
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2024
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 0593445597
• ISBN 13: 9780593445594
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 256
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