Parenting with a Plan: Building Blocks and Raising Children - Softcover

Sigmon, Vernon

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1440197741 ISBN 13: 9781440197741

Verlag: iUniverse, 2010

Inhaltsangabe

There has never been a time in history when the world's population in general, and Americans in particular, have been so self absorbed and materialistic about life. This type of living produces self-centeredness, headiness, and high-mindedness. It also creates a trap for parents. By being bound by a lust for things, our priorities for a simple way of life gets distorted. Children so often get pushed to the background because parents want to be in the foreground. What we are reproducing is a group of self-absorbers in future generations who are not self-reliant, but rather self-indulgent people. The primary concept of this book is to awaken the parent in parenting. Children need a blueprint for their development. But their parents need to create a valid blueprint first so that they can help their children on the path to responsible adulthood. A plan needs to be put into place from the time a mother conceives. Prevention is better than seeking a cure. Parenting is a delightful journey, but one that embraces many challenges. By observing, you will make new discoveries every day and have opportunities to engage with your child-in playtime, communication, education, and other parent-related activities. Growing together with your child is a wonderful adventure. Don't miss it!

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Vernon Sigmon is a graduate of Southeastern University of Lakeland, Florida, with a B.A. degree in Pastoral Counseling. He works as a Parent Educator Supervisor with the Chester County School District of Chester, South Carolina, where he and his family live. He is also a licensed minister with the Assemblies of God. For speaking engagements, contact: sigmonv@live.com

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Parenting with a Plan

Building Blocks and Raising ChildrenBy Vernon Sigmon

iUniverse, Inc.

Copyright © 2010 Vernon Sigmon
All right reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4401-9774-1

Contents

PREFACE......................................................xiiiACKNOWLEDGEMENTS.............................................xviiTHE FOOTING..................................................1Emotional Stability..........................................3THE FOUNDATION...............................................11Giving Proper Correction.....................................16The Black Dot Test...........................................18THE FLOORING.................................................21Building Independence........................................21THE WALLS....................................................29A Strong Family Support System...............................30THE TRUSS AND ROOFING SYSTEM.................................35Discipline...................................................38SIDING, WINDOWS, DOORS, AND PAINTING.........................43Be an Observer...............................................45Exposing Life's Experiences..................................47THE PLUMBING.................................................51Laughing and Touching........................................52THE WIRING, INSULATION, HEATING, AND AIR.....................57Wiring in a Home.............................................58Healthy Brain Connections....................................59Creating Comfort and Security................................63Controlling the Home Environment.............................65DRYWALL......................................................69Intrusions versus Distant Management.........................69Pre-Teens....................................................70Teenagers....................................................71THE FURNITURE AND HANDING OVER THE KEYS......................77Job Well Done................................................78Bonded Through Communications................................80A Personal Short Story.......................................83About the Author.............................................85

Chapter One

THE FOOTING

What am I doing as a parent to deter my children from walking to the edge of disaster and leaping off? What am I doing to get a plan for them that will foster their future ability to engage the world around them and not be swallowed up with destructive ideas? Am I planning for their spiritual, mental, physical, and social emotional health to help them become well-rounded individuals?

These are some questions that parents everywhere ask themselves as they embrace parenthood. Maybe you have considered yourself to be a good parent by providing for your child's spiritual health, mental health, and physical health, but have you really deeply thought about your child's emotional health-or I could say emotional stability ... your child's feelings? Do you pass over your child's feelings or do you stop and actively listen to his or her emotional hurts and wounds? In this opening chapter, and throughout the book, we are going to investigate and uncover some valuable truths that will make parenting more fulfilling and give you more confidence in yourself as a parent.

In the seven years I have spent as a parent educator, I have completed over 1300 in-home visits with parents of children-infant to five years of age. Within the course of those visits, I have handed out goal sheets to the parents asking questions about the upcoming year and goals they were setting for their children. From the parents of an infant, I might get an answer like, "I want my child to walk by nine months of age." From the parents of a toddler, I might get an answer like, "I want my child to learn colors" or "I want my child to talk better." The answer I received most, however, from parents of children of all ages was, "I want my child to be smart and get a good education." All these answers were aspiring and healthy, but the answer that I never received in those seven years of service was, "I want my child to be emotionally stable." I soon discovered that, for the most part, parents have never heard of this subject. They just don't know. Do they want to know? For the most part, yes, they do want to know. Once the definition and concept of emotional stability is explained, parents will pursue it with vigor and begin to make applications. Emotional stability is basically paying attention to our inner feelings (positive and negative) and working at keeping those feelings stabilized-and on the positive side.

As has been stated, the footing is the starting point in the structure of a house. With some aspects of a building-like windows, doors, plumbing, wiring, siding, or roofing-you can get by with a little compromise in quality. But there is one thing that you should never, ever reduce in quality, and that is the footing. The footing is that part of the house upon which the whole structure rests. As soon as a child is born is the most opportune time to start placing the footing into their lives. Our goal here is to establish a footing in a child's life on which we can build emotional stability. At conception, it is extremely beneficial to the fetus for Mom, Dad, relatives, and friends to talk and sing to the developing baby. At birth, emotional connections start through cuddling, hugging, touching, making eye contact, teasing, reading, laughing, and so on. Why is this so important? The baby's mind is growing at a tremendous rate and making connections with the outside world. If children are never touched, talked to, or cuddled-all examples of emotional involvement-a feeling of rejection or a disconnected feeling is established within their minds and hearts.

Plan Your Work-Work Your Plan

To build your home, you must take certain steps. First, buy your land. That's a given. Then, you must pick out the style and size of home you want, acquire the contractor, and follow up by getting your finances in place. Now, you are ready to start. And where do you start? That is a good question. You surely do not start from the roof and go down to the ground. You start from the ground and then build up to the roof. The first step in building a home is clearing the land and then staking out the footing. Usually a backhoe is used to dig down into the ground and remove the dirt. A trench is dug some twelve to sixteen inches wide and twelve or more inches in depth. This is the footprint of your house.

Once the trench is dug, the concrete trucks drive in and a crew pours the trench full of concrete. Only when the concrete is dry can you say that you are ready to go up with the structure. Just remember, with a good strong footing, you can be pretty assured that the structure above it will be more secure against violent weather when it comes. Have you ever noticed how often mobile homes get toppled in violent storms, compared to site-built homes? The footing offers an anchor.

Emotional Stability

To build a child's life from infancy to eighteen or twenty years of age takes more than sticks and stones, or a hammer and saw. As I stated earlier, choosing good materials for building a home is important to complete a good strong structure. So it is with building a child's life. Just as you would probably choose brick over wood, wouldn't you choose love over hatred, peace over violence and turmoil, popcorn and a movie over drugs and alcohol? To achieve this, I am going to teach you some things about emotional...

Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: iUniverse
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2010
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 1440197741
• ISBN 13: 9781440197741
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 108
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