His Ingredient Label: A Woman's Guide to Recognizing a Junk Food Man - Softcover

Tardy, MBA J. M.

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1450215521 ISBN 13: 9781450215527

Verlag: iUniverse, 2010

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Are you still pushing good men away because of your own insecurities? Do you still want it all after the first date and give it all on the second date? Are you consistently waiting for him to call you back or spend time with you? If so, it's time to be cleansed. Like cleansing yourself from toxic foods, it's time to begin doing the same with toxic relationships. In His Ingredient Label: A Woman's Guide to Recognizing a Junk Food Man, author J.M. Tardy shows you how men are like foods to which you can become addicted if you don't control yourself. It helps you to recognize how your own decision-making can be the first step to a healthier relationship, and it demonstrates how to recognize the true character of a man by investigating what he is made of. Relating true stories from other women and from her personal experience, Tardy explains that people have "ingredients" like food, and women need to choose men based on the quality of those ingredients. Through His Ingredient Label, Tardy encourages women to seek and maintain healthy relationships.

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J.M. Tardy earned a bachelor's and master's degree from Virginia Tech, Blacksburg, Virginia. She has trained thousands on understanding the behaviors of others and how it can improve relationships, personally and professionally. She lives with her boyfriend, Isaac, and their dog, Bishop, in Charlotte, North Carolina. Visit her online at www: JenniferTardy.com.

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His Ingredient Label

A Woman's Guide to Recognizing a Junk Food ManBy J. M. Tardy

iUniverse, Inc.

Copyright © 2010 J. M. Tardy, MBA/PHR
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ISBN: 978-1-4502-1552-7

Contents

Acknowledgments......................................................ixThe Point of it All..................................................xiJust for Me..........................................................xiiIntroduction.........................................................xiiiChapter One: Let's Go Shopping!......................................1Chapter Two: Wait-Am I Ready for This?...............................15Chapter Three: Your Most Valuable Shopping Asset.....................25Chapter Four: Hiccups................................................35Chapter Five: Controlling Those Cravings.............................53Chapter Six: What About Your Friends?................................65Chapter Seven: When the Tables Turn..................................73Chapter Eight: Women Decide..........................................81Chapter Nine: You Don't Always Have to Prove It......................91Chapter Ten: When it's Time to Let Go................................99Chapter Eleven: Trouble Leads to Blessings...........................107Chapter Twelve: When You Reach "Zero Tolerance"......................115Chapter Thirteen: Recruiting in the Right Zone.......................123Chapter Fourteen: My Story...........................................135A Final Letter to my Sisters in Spirit...............................145About the Author.....................................................147Do You Have the Right Story?.........................................149

Chapter One

Let's Go Shopping!

What if you had the luxury of literally shopping for your potential life partner? Walking from aisle to aisle or browsing a full-color print or online catalogue, wouldn't you take the time to carefully check out what each man is made of? Wouldn't life be easier if men could just wear ingredient labels?

If you were able to view this man's ingredient label, you would instantly know what your future with him held. You would have the discernment to understand that a man who has a low percentage of his character dedicated to honesty may be a liar. A man with a small percentage of commitment may be a cheater. A man who is average in charm may have "game." A man who is low in integrity might be ready to deceive. You could instantly conclude that you do not need his possible drama in your life. You would know that this man is more of a hassle than a helpmate. You would walk away and be satisfied with your decision. Right?

Unfortunately, men don't come with ingredient labels, and without them, understanding masculine components isn't a transparent process. It takes time, understanding, and discernment to fathom what a man is made of. Adult men are no longer those little boys made of "snips and snails and puppy dog tails," as the nursery rhyme used to tell us. As a matter of fact, the most challenging part of playing the dating game and investing in relationships is the ability to recognize the true character of a man in enough time to decide whether you should stay with him or move on without him.

Whether you are dating casually or in a committed relationship, there is the potential to absorb great hurt, anxiety, bitterness, pain, and insecurity. These are the toxins that we prefer to avoid in life; therefore, we need to be more aware of their proximity. How can one recognize those qualities in another person? I hear many women say, "I wish I knew then what I know now." The goal of this book is to help women in relationships learn to read their guy's ingredient label (i.e., interpret his character) in order to decide whether to pursue, be pursued, or walk away. Such knowledge will let you make a conscious and satisfying decision.

If you are a wife, girlfriend, "jump-off," mistress, "friend with benefits," or any other applicable term for a female that is involved with a male, then I am talking to you. Your relationship doesn't have to be sexual, it doesn't have to be formal, and it doesn't even have to be known or defined. Even if you feel that you are the only participant in your situation-girlfriend, you are still involved. Yes, you are "having relations" because you have allowed someone to occupy your time and impact your life. Keep reading, because the following is specifically for you.

Ingredient Labels

I don't know about you, but I have been on a healthy eating kick lately. I'm not sure what it is, but the older I get, the more my body starts to crave nutritious items like vegetables, fruits, and water-I crave water! I remember when I was in high school and college; I could eat anything and as much of it as I wanted with no side effects. I can't do that these days! Everything I eat that is unhealthy will stick right to my stomach and thighs. If I even daydream about donuts, I'm convinced that I will gain a pound or two.

So, I am cleansing myself. Of course, every now and again, I slip off the high road and eat something fatty or sweetened, but I eventually go back to my healthy regime, buying nutritional foods and sticking to sensible servings. Now, to manage this, I have to start paying more attention to the ingredients in foods. I can't just put anything into my body that smells good or looks tempting. I had to learn what was healthy and unhealthy for me, and why. It was not enough for someone to tell me to stay away from a Snickers Bar; I needed a reason. Yes, a Snickers Bar is so tasty that I have to know why I shouldn't eat one every day. The same principle applied to carbs, starches, and unwholesome fats. I couldn't just plunge into any kind of food I wanted. No, I had to seriously consider the effect of those foods on my body, my mind, and even my overall health and life. No matter how wonderful that hot fudge sundae (with double hot fudge) looked on the Dairy Queen sign, I couldn't just order one without thinking about the consequences. So if I ate that hot fudge sundae, I would have to skip breakfast or lunch-or both-to compensate for the calorie overload that was impacting my poor, unsuspecting figure.

Then, out of the blue, I began thinking about how to apply this same concept to men. Allow me to explain ...

Like food, men (and women, for that matter) contain ingredients, but we use a different term for human ingredients. We call our additives "character." If you are trying to cleanse yourself from unhealthy relationships the way I cleansed my body from unhealthy foods, then maybe it is time for you to start reading men's ingredient labels. Character is defined as one of the attributes or features that make up and distinguish an individual. The character of a man is sometimes obvious, but at other times it is unclear. You have to understand a person and his behavior in order to identify character, just as you must be able to read an ingredient label in order to identify a product's composition. In either case, how would you ever know what you are about to ingest or invest in? Take a look at the matrix below.

This matrix is divided into a clear zone and a shaded zone. The products within the clear zone (Quadrant One: the Vegetable, and Quadrant Three: the Hot Pepper) are healthier than those in the shaded zone. For example, most people know how good broccoli and beets are because studies have shown their positive effects on the body. But how many people actually know how healthy hot peppers can be for your...

Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: iUniverse
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2010
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 1450215521
• ISBN 13: 9781450215527
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 168
• Kontakt zum Hersteller: Nicht verfügbar
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