Confessions of A Recovering Stupid Male: Creating Loving Relationships That Will Last a Lifetime - Softcover

Love, Mike

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1452534616 ISBN 13: 9781452534619

Verlag: Balboa Press, 2011

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Do you want to experience a more loving, intimate life with the one you love? There is hope for couples who are struggling to keep their union together. The fine line between a mundane relationship and an extraordinary one depends on what you bring to it.

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Confessions OF A RECOVERING STUPID MALE

Creating Loving Relationships That Will Last a LifetimeBy MIKE LOVE

BALBOA PRESS

Copyright © 2011 Mike Love
All right reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4525-3461-9

Contents

Acknowledgments...........................................................................viiForeword by Shelley Love..................................................................xiIntroduction..............................................................................xvChapter 1. Once Upon a Time – A Love Story..........................................1Chapter 2. The Dark Side of Men...........................................................25Chapter 3. Anger, Violence and Men........................................................42Chapter 4. The Mid-Life Crazies...........................................................62Chapter 5. Coping with Infidelity.........................................................80Chapter 6. What Women Really Want in a Relationship.......................................103Chapter 7. The Art of Loving and the Desire for Sacred Sex................................125Chapter 8. 12 Steps to Becoming a Recovering Stupid Male..................................142Chapter 9. The Emerging of an Enlightened Male............................................163Chapter 10. The Greater Challenge Ahead of Us (All You Need Is Love!).....................184Recommended Reading.......................................................................201

Chapter One

ONCE UPON A TIME – A LOVE STORY

It was the last Thursday in March 1984, the first week back from spring break and my last quarter before I graduated from Eastern Washington University. Mark, Sarah and I decided to go out to a popular bar where a new band was playing that we wanted to hear. Since all three of us didn't have any classes on Friday we decided to start the weekend early.

Mark and I had a class together, as well as working at a halfway house where I earned credits for a practicum and made a salary as well. Sarah was in a couple of other classes with me and we would often study together in the cafeteria for upcoming exams.

As Divine synchronicities occur, I introduced Mark to Sarah while we were studying one morning, and they instantly became an item and eventually got married. The Universe is full of beautiful surprises, and as I would soon find out, it would be a night full of synchronicities that would forever change the course of my life as well.

I met them at the bar early before the band started, so we could get a table near the dance floor, and bought the first pitcher of beer. I was in a particularly good space mentally; being in a happy, carefree spirit, which hadn't always been the case in times past.

That night I wasn't feeling desperate to find a woman to get into a relationship with, and feeling sorry for myself when she didn't materialize, as I often had before when I went out.

If I wanted to dance I could dance with Sarah, with Mark's blessing. And when they danced I watched people around the bar and on the dance floor. That can be a lot of fun! I'd view couples you could tell were well established in their relationships, doing the magic they made in their dance.

There was always the guy who would ask a girl he didn't know to dance, and either she accepted or declined. If she declined he would ask the next girl. If she accepted, they often looked uncomfortable with each other – no eye contact or magic in their dance.

When the song was over they would say a brief "thank you," and depart in opposite directions. There were couples, like Mark and Sarah, who were just starting out with one another; learning each other's rhythm; and the potential they created between them in their dance.

There seemed to be this "unspoken code" amongst unattached singles when it came to dancing; if you danced with someone you didn't know, you only danced to a fast-beat song, giving little or no eye contact. After the song both usually went back to their designated seats with a polite thank you.

But, above all (as etiquette would have it), one NEVER EVER asked a woman he didn't know to slow dance. Only those who were romantically involved had that honor. To violate that rule was the "ultimate" of unpardonable sins and instant rejection.

I had just turned 29 a couple of months earlier and by 1984 I was the oldest guy I knew who had remained single. I had friends who had been married in their late teens or early twenties and later divorced, but none who had stayed single for this long.

I dated quite a bit in my twenties and had been in three serious relationships, but ended up getting hurt in the end. It was the case of, I was either attracted to a woman who wasn't attracted to me, or vice versa.

During my last two and a half years in college I played the field and just dated women who I wouldn't fall for. I felt confident with a woman with whom I could be a friend. My problem had always been that if I felt the least bit attracted to her I melted like putty, feeling terrified that I would get hurt again.

So I kept my walls up to be safe. Yet, deep down, I wanted to love and be loved like we all do, yet I was caught up in my own insecurities and didn't know what to do about it.

As the night went on I found myself thinking about my life and where I was going from here. As I watched Mark and Sarah slowly dancing to the music, I started to reflect, "I'm twenty-nine years old now. In eleven years I will be 40. What if I'm still single and I don't have anybody?"

In that moment I foresaw myself at forty; seeing that I was even more desperate and depressed than I had been in my twenties, and sinking fast!

I then fast-forwarded forty years later to when I was 80. I saw myself looking back on my life, shaking my head with tears in my eyes, wondering why I had wasted all those years being immobilized by my moods and fears, when I could have been living a fulfilling life with what I had, and making something constructive out of it.

I suddenly felt energized and in a deep state of bliss. I was feeling light and powerful! I sensed a heavy weight being lifted off my shoulders and became aware of the Universe opening up like a combination to a vault, sharing its treasures with me.

The message was clear – be the best you can be with what you have and don't worry about the rest! At that point I was in total rapture! I felt liberated and at one with myself and my Source! It was a state of being I wanted to bathe in, not wanting to leave! Like warm, beautiful sunlight renewing my whole spirit and ...

I was immediately brought back to find someone tapping my shoulder, and a woman's voice asking, "Hi, would you like to dance?" It was like I was in Heaven and being forced back into my body. I felt cheated. I wanted to experience so much more of this ecstasy that was so new to me!

I looked up and saw a young, attractive brunette with the most mesmerizing blue eyes I had ever seen, with a beautiful smile to match them. The next thing I knew we were dancing.

In the midst of our dance I kept looking at her and thought, she seemed so familiar to me. Where had I seen her before? I knew I had met her once before, but I didn't know when or where. As we danced she kept gazing at me and smiling. "This isn't part of the code," I thought.

When the song ended I said my customary thank you and was ready to head back to my seat. But then she asked if I wanted to dance again. I was surprised....

Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: Balboa Press
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2011
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 1452534616
• ISBN 13: 9781452534619
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 228
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