Choices 7 Steps Life Lessons 101 - Softcover

Short, Anne

Softcover

ISBN 10: 146698581X ISBN 13: 9781466985810

Verlag: Trafford, 2014

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This book was inspired out of the endeavors of CHOICES 7 Steps, a seven weeks moral reasoning conflict resolution therapeutic program. The many years of facilitating CHOICES 7 Steps in schools and private organizations, afforded the opportunity of receiving positive feedback on the impact of the program. Results were; positive change of thoughts, attitudes and behavior that led to different perspective on life. The overwhelming request for a home base program inspired this home based self-help handbook to enhance self-awareness.

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Choices 7 Steps

By ANNE SHORT

Trafford Publishing

Copyright © 2014 Anne Short, Ph.D.
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-4669-8581-0

Contents

Preamble, ix, 
Introduction, xi, 
Life Lesson I Communication, 1, 
Life Lesson II Honesty, 13, 
Life Lesson III Objectivity, 21, 
Life Lesson IV Intervention, 25, 
Life Lesson V Conflict, 31, 
Life Lesson VI Emotions, 39, 
Life Lesson VII Solutions, 57, 

CHAPTER 1

Life Lesson I Communication

FAMOUS QUOTES ON COMMUNICATION:

* Before you speak, it is necessary for you to listen, for God speaks in the silence of the heart.... Mother Teresa

* "You are not only responsible for what you say, but also for what you do not say".... Martin Luther

Love Yourself Respect Others

Be Honest Give only what you want in return. Think if you give change, you get change back ...

* Don't wait until your birthday to celebrate your life. Do it now!

Make the choice to celebrate each day, as if it is a new birth with an opportunity to make changes in your life.

&

acknowledge the day of your birth as the anniversary of your life. (this day becomes just another day to celebrate life).

Your life is unique, make the most of it....

"Live, Love, Laugh, Pray, Be Happy"

Lesson 1—Communication

* Honest communication has proven to have health benefits. Decrease frustration, stress and anxiety levels with the opportunity to create healthier relationships.

* If you are too emotional and unable to think, request to leave or politely leave. After calming down and reflecting on the situation, return to apologize for leaving, and admit honestly that you needed the break to think. Express you were too emotional to communicate effectively or make rational decisions that will benefit everyone involved.

* Identify dearly your honest and specific feelings of;—angry, sad, mad, disappointed, frustrated, etc. Give specific reasons why and avoid blaming for what you felt. In other words take responsibility by owning your emotions!

* Use assertive communication, by being honest, dear, respectful and direct when expressing feelings to others.

Note: all human beings have a basic need to be heard and respected for their ability to think and having a opinion.

* Use effective listening skills to hear the other person's perspective, can change the tone of a conflict in your relationship. It requires no or limiting verbal communication while using direct eye contact.

LINGUISTICS EXPERTS REPORTS; 90% OF COMMUNICATION IS NON VERBAL.

EARLIER RESEARCH BY PSYCHOLOGIST SIGMUND FREUD (1901) PROCLAIMED OUR SUBCONSCIOUSNESS MEMORIES REFLECTS OUTWARD BEHAVIOR.

RESEARCH VALIDATES THE IMPORTANCE OF USING ASSERTIVE/HONEST COMMUNICATION.

CORE COMMUNICATION STYLES

* Passive—shy, quiet, indirect communication, avoidance and dishonest. (most important aspect of this style due to withholding of real emotions leading to detrimental consequences to self or others).

* Assertive—clear, direct, honest, responsible confront and respect (most important element of this style due to conflict of uncomfortable feelings of truth by others but respected in long run).

* Aggressive—overbearing, controlling, one sided communication and disrespect. (most important aspect of this communication style is to make distinct difference and avoid confusion with assertive style).

* Passive Aggressive—Combination of passive and aggressive which refers to holding honest emotions inside until explosive stage of hurting self and others.

STRESS AWARENESS

Stress Levels

Do yourself a favor; lower your stress levels by using assertive/ effective communication. Remember passive communication relates to trapped emotional energy. Research show high stress levels for long periods could detrimental health issues. Choices 7 Steps-Communication

COMMUNICATION LIFE LESSON EXERCISE I-A

IDENTIFY YOUR CORE COMMUNICATION STYLE

* I identify my communication style as; _______________________________________________

* I justify this style with real examples like: _______________________________________________

I AM THE ARTIST OF MY LIFE

* As the artist of your life. Use honest communication below to describe the type of picture you are painting? Include clear details on specific colors you have chosen in your picture. Indicate the significance of your colors choices.

* Date: ______________________________________________

QUESTION ON YOUR LIFE LESSON

(MEDIATION OR DISCUSSION OTHERS)

* Question: what lesson am I learning from the people around me? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

* Question: Is the lesson over, or am I still in the course? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

* Question: what more can I learn in this relationship and how will I apply the lesson learned to other phases of my life. ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

To heal and move forward, I will thank the teacher(s) who taught me the tough life lessons. I promise to apply my life lessons by teaching others what I have learned in other chapters of my life. ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

Date: ________________ Signature ______________

Learn a lesson to teach a lesson

LIFE MEANS; SOMETHING LIVING....

DEATH MEANS; SOMETHING NO LONGER LIVING....

SHOW APPRECIATION FOR THE LIFE YOU HAVE, BY LIVING....

THE CHOICE IS YOURS....

COMMUNICATION LIFE LESSON EXERCISE I-B

7 POSITIVE DAILY COMMENTS (BRIEF AND SINCERE POSITIVE COMMENTS I MADE TO SOMEONE EACH DAY)

I. ___________________________________________________

II. __________________________________________________

III. _________________________________________________

IV. __________________________________________________

V. ___________________________________________________

VI. __________________________________________________

VII. _________________________________________________

Life Lesson II

Honesty

"HONEST COMMUNICATION IS THE BEST POLICY TO PROMOTE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS.... DR. SHORT

UNEXPRESSED HONEST EMOTIONS IS BEING DISHONEST.... DR. SHORT

LESSON 2—HONESTY

• Honesty is always the best policy for the best results!

• For emotional relief and health benefits, use assertive communication to express your honest feelings within relationships.

• To be honest, does not mean to hurt or harm others. It should clearly express what you feel for the intent to achieve better understanding on the reality of individual position with the goal of establishing or maintaining good healthy relationships.

• Honest communication is a risk that helps you and others!!

ADOPT AN I CAN & I WILL ATTITUDE

* To reinforce daily positive attitude and thoughts, post positive affirmation notes in plain sight for regular viewing. By seeing at least one positive message a day, promotes change of negative...

Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: Trafford
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2014
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 146698581X
• ISBN 13: 9781466985810
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 88
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