Redefind Single 40+: How to Springboard to a New Life by Redefining & Rediscovering Who You Really Are - Softcover

Garrett, Catherine

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1475997981 ISBN 13: 9781475997989

Verlag: iUniverse, 2013

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Catherine Garrett knows what it's like to be over forty and single after a long relationship. Unhappy in her marriage and her career, she did what many women are terrified to do: she let it all go. As a life coach, Catherine shares processes, meditations and stories that encourage single women over forty to release fears, challenge beliefs and limiting life definitions, expose true desires and passions, and use past relationships as springboards to create an exciting future. At one time in your life, you were an individual who had dreams and desires. Have you put your passions at the bottom of your own list of priorities and feel lost in your newfound singledom? Through insight gained on her own journey of self-discovery and empowerment, Catherine inspires women to: EMBRACE being single CONVERT fear into excitement REMEMBER who they really are UNPLUG from limitation DISCOVER life's hidden gems FOCUS in a new direction RedeFIND SiNGLE 40+ offers time-tested, motivating advice inviting women to summon their extraordinary feminine powers, embrace their independence, and learn how to live a passionate life.

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Catherine Garrett is a journalist and poet currently living on the unceded traditional territory of the Lheidli T'enneh Nation, colonially known as Prince George. She has been a member of several Vancouver and Victoria spoken word teams, and most recently published in Room Magazine. She is an active volunteer with the Vancouver and Victoria slam scenes, often hosting and organizing events. You can find her crying about hockey online at @cath_garrett on Twitter.

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RedeFIND SiNGLE 40+

How to Springboard to a New Life by Redefining & Rediscovering Who You Really Are

By Catherine Garrett

iUniverse LLC

Copyright © 2013 Catherine Garrett
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-4759-9798-9

Contents

Preface....................................................................
ix
Chapter One: Everything Changes in the Blink of an Eye.....................
1
Chapter Two: Who's That Girl in the Mirror?................................
9
Chapter Three: When Fear Becomes a Factor..................................
19
Chapter Four: Embracing Single Just a Little...............................
40
Chapter Five: Begin by Reinventing Yourself................................
55
Chapter Six: Is It Real? Can I Touch It?...................................
67
Chapter Seven: Who Am I?...................................................
89
Chapter Eight: You've Got the Power........................................
114
Chapter Nine: Hidden Gems..................................................
136
Chapter Ten: The Forks in Your Roads Ahead.................................
152
Chapter Eleven: It's You and Only You Is That a Problem?...................
171
Chapter Twelve: Brag Your Little Heart Out.................................
176
Chapter Thirteen: The Man Factor...........................................
193
Chapter Fourteen: Inner Piece..............................................
218
Epilogue...................................................................
221

CHAPTER 1

EVERYTHING CHANGES IN THEVERYTHING THEBLINK OF AN EYE

There is a moment ... and its timing is highly unpredictable. Amidthe chaos of resolving new living arrangements, bickering overpossessions, squabbling while separating finances, and doing yourbest to keep a lid on the fact that your marriage is over, it presentsitself. You could be out walking your dog, making a cup of tea,sending a text message, preparing dinner, or chatting on the phonewith your best friend. It's one of those bizarre flashes where, in theblink of an eye, time is frozen and you experience a heightenedsense of awareness. In that stillness, your attention turns inward.You relax and release your breath ... ah, there is clarity. The heavyhaze of break-up shock lifts for the slightest moment, and oneabundantly clear message comes to mind: I am alone.

What happens after this moment slips away is an individual experiencefor every woman. Some let the outside world punch through thatstillness and reclaim its space, slipping back into the familiar, wretchedbrain fog they've become accustomed to. This additional informationonly adds to their frustrations. Maybe it's as though, in this briefflicker of time, a window has opened. Fresh air sweeps across yourface, breathing life into the promise of better experiences to come,a small breather within the mayhem. Did you choose to receive thisinformation and step fully into your new role as a single woman,excited about the possibilities before you? No matter what occurs inthis blink of an eye, it is an incredibly precious moment where youhave come to another life-altering fork in your road of life. You arestanding at an intersection that offers choices. Whether you chooseto respond consciously or simply continue to react, you will continueforward with this new insight, unknowingly or not.

Fifteen, twenty, maybe more than thirty years have magicallymerged into this one instant. Everything you have done, been, seen,and lived has culminated here and now. You are alone. At night, noone is beside you, pressing their body against yours or breathingonto the back of your neck. No one will roll over and hit you withan elbow or steal the sheets. You no longer need to wait for anyoneto come home or to schedule a movie night with. A morning chatsipping tea or coffee before beginning your day is no longer anoption. It's just you ... on your own now.

For many women, the idea of taking over the entire bed soundsinviting. From your perspective, does it feel empty? Errands andresponsibilities are yours alone to manage. Washing laundry, groceryshopping, and tending to children or teens who are continuingwith you on this part of your life's travels are all up to you. Theperspective you bought into during that flash of clarity—whetheryou chose to move forward or continue to react to your newenvironment—illustrates how you are feeling right now.

You're Single Again!

That's right, you are single—the thing you were years ago and dideverything not to be since you completed high school. In my youthand social circle, girls focused an excessive amount of energyattempting to locate Mr. Right, usually as soon as they steppedinto their ninth grade homeroom. Many couldn't even wait thislong, claiming boy after boy as their boyfriend throughout publicschool. We were just babies, but we were already skilled enoughsocially to know how to charm a young man with our girlishqualities, toy with his emotions, and then dump him and go insearch of the next boy to manipulate. Countless women from mygeneration were trained to keep their eyes peeled for Mr. Right,snatch him, get married, and have babies. The role of our captiveswas to take care of us, pamper us whenever possible, and keepus safe.

As seasoned women now, we find ourselves once again mixed upin this crazy game of cat and mouse. For those of us who havedecided that living alone is not an option, we usually go on theprowl for Mr. Right, using the same methods we employed in ouryouth. Many of us crave this perfect man who will fill our needs andbecome our supposed soul mate (however we have defined this).This time, ladies, it's game on!

Back in the day (a phrase one of my best girlfriends uses thatalways makes me laugh), we sifted through the masses of availablehorny guys in hopes of meeting a soul mate. We defined our soulmate as the guy who made us feel significant, and we simplycouldn't stop thinking about him. He was our male complement;he was perfectly in sync with us and just got us. He amplified ourstrengths and countered our weaknesses. This remarkable manwould ask us to marry him, indulge us in a fabulously elaboratewedding and romantic honeymoon, and we would raise beautifulchildren together and live happily ever after. Doesn't that sound likea fairytale dream come true? For some women, this dream doesactualize. However, for many of us, this type of supporting andrespectful relationship doesn't ever exist.

Like many women I knew who grew up in the seventies, my momperpetuated her mother's wish that my partner was responsible formaking me happy for the rest of my life. All moms like mine crossedtheir fingers and prayed that their daughters would be taken care ofby a loving man and find joy in marriage. In truth, happiness is noone's responsibility—other than our own. The fundamental natureof finding Mr. Right, getting married, making beautiful babies, andliving happily ever after was all too often a set up for much biggerdisasters down the road, and no one knew the better.

From infancy, young girls all over the world were, and often stillare, taught that marriage is the ultimate goal. Although those exactwords may...

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• Verlag: iUniverse
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2013
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 1475997981
• ISBN 13: 9781475997989
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