Single but not alone - Softcover

Carter, Charlotte

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1481721151 ISBN 13: 9781481721158

Verlag: AuthorHouse, 2014

Inhaltsangabe

Proverbs 22:6- Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he won't depart from it. Children are an inheritance from God he also say in, "Isaiah 26-3" thou will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stated on thee. Children need choices: Choices have many meaning (1) act of choosing; selection (2) Power of choosing; option. (3) That which is most excellent; the best part. (4) A sufficient number and variety to choose among; also a choice supply. So you see we have to teach them choices, and let them know whatever choice they make it is their choice, and they are responsible for their choice.

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Single but not alone

By Charlotte Carter

AuthorHouse LLC

Copyright © 2014 Charlotte Carter
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ISBN: 978-1-4817-2115-8

Contents

Chapter I-Definition of a Parent, 7, 
Chapter II-Raising Children, 11, 
Chapter III-Making Children Responsible for Their Actions, 17, 
Chapter IV-Raising Young Black Men, 25, 
Chapter V-Love and Support from Others, 31, 
Chapter VI-Proud to Be a Single Parent, 35, 

CHAPTER 1

Definition of a Parent

According to Webster's Dictionary, a parent is one who begets or brings forth offspring, a father or a mother. That which produces, as a plant, also a cause; source.

On the other hand, parenting is providing for a child or children. When a man and women meet and decide to have children, it should be a matter decided together and involve planning for how the child or children will be cared for and nourished.

It's important that you have a suitable home and an idea of how many children you will have. Then there is the matter of having insurance to pay for the baby coming into your life. Also, it must be decided whether one of the parents will be able to stay at home with the baby. If a parent cannot be at home, you have to consider day care. From then on, you have the responsibility of caring for your children.

As I said, being a parent is a big responsibility. Planning is required. Otherwise, if you bring children into your life without being ready, they will feel the effect. They may feel rejected, unable to fit in with their peers. As parents, you will want to think about how it would feel if you started your family before one of you were ready; this might cause a problem in your marriage as well.

Praise Report

I was truly blessed with my children; I was able to stay at home with them until I unfortunately went through a divorce and found myself as a single parent. God was good to me. I gave my life to Christ and got involved in a good church, paying my tithes and offerings. God took over my life.

My children completed high school with good grades, and after high school, most continued through college with scholarships. The ones that didn't go to college went in the US Army for twenty-two years and seven years, respectively, and were able to get government jobs. These are examples of planning and taking care of your children. You may become a single parent one day. As I stated, I did, and the important thing I did was give my life to Christ. He will be your only way out.

It is also important that you talk to your children about God, tell them about and get them involved in Sunday school and church, and teach them to give their lives to God. Teach them to respect their elders as well. Teach them to have mentors, teacher, and so on, who will teach them the right way to go. Remember that it takes a village to raise a child, and if we plan for our children, we can handle virtually any situation that arises. Again, I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me (Philippians 4-13).

Also remember: If God be for us, who can be against us? (Romans 8:31). Then we have to call "Mr. Wisdom" in on the matter. Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline from the words of my mouth (Proverbs 4:5). Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all their getting, get understanding (Proverbs 4:7). Through wisdom is a child raised, and by understanding, he is made strong.

So we see how important it is to plan for a nice family so we can give them the necessary things they need in life to be successful. They will raise up and call you blessed because you have given them a good life.

We need to teach and show our children the way of Christ, teach them the word of God. Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths (Proverb 3:5-6).

I hope I have shared something in this chapter that will help you in parenting your child or children. God bless you.

CHAPTER 2

Raising Children

In raising children, it's not necessarily the things you say but also the way you say them that is important. You can drive your children into rebelling by not listening to them. Children need to be talked to and not talked at. As I stated in chapter I, children need to be loved, nourished, taught responsibly, encouraged, listened to, and taught that they should not be rewarded when they do something incorrectly. For example, when a child or children say something or act in a way that is not acceptable, don't laugh at them or think it's cute. Teach them the right way to do things. If you don't teach them, then they will never know.

Children should never hear that they are "mistakes." I'm referring to a man and women not planning for a child but finding out that they are going to be parents anyway. If a child hears that word, it will harm his spirit. Children do not need this. I must admit that this does not happen in every situation. Sometimes a man and woman make a good go of it and adjust to their mistake. God bless them but they still have to think about the baby. The child may still feel some rejection and frustration with his parents later. That's why planning is essential.

Praise Report

I was a single parent before I became a married parent. I was a young girl, raised by a very strict mom and dad. I had choices to make. I was a nice girl. I went to church every Sunday and got good grades in school; I also had chores to do around the house.

One night there was a basketball game at my school. My parents let me go with my cousin, and after the game, a young man asked to take me home. At first, I said no, but he insisted, and I fell for it. He didn't take me home; he took me away and raped me. I was scared to tell my parents. Then I found out I was pregnant, which brought on a lot of rejection and frustration, making it hard not only on my son I brought into the world but on me too.

After that, I went on with my life and started making good choices. I went to work and took care of my son, also helping my mother and father with my little sisters until years later, when I decided to marry and have more children. Children can be mistakes, but planning is important. God will see you through your choices you make—just think of the child.

In today's world, young parents and single parents are raising children. Unfortunately, they are not always teaching them the right way. In some cases, children are raising them, telling them how and when they want things done, telling them what they are to wear, and telling them where they want this or that.

Another Praise Report

Both Mom and Dad raised me. They stuck together, and what each one said, the other enforced. That's good, but the scripture training has to be forced. They didn't send us to church; they took us. Children need to go to church and Sunday school. As I have stated, God said, Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6). Parents, take your children to church and put Christ in their lives. Even if they make mistakes, they will come back.

I work with children every day, and some of them can sing songs with unclean words but can't even say their own names, learn their ABCs, and so on. That's why they need Christ. Give them Jesus and you can't go wrong. Jesus is the way. Only through diligence and consistency can your mind become what you create it to be.

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Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: AuthorHouse
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2014
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 1481721151
• ISBN 13: 9781481721158
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 48
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