Truth Shift: One Scared Girl’s Guide to Creating Mindful Change - Softcover

Hawkins, Tiffany

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1504385276 ISBN 13: 9781504385275

Verlag: BalboaPress, 2017

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It’s scary to know that we have no control over anything except ourselves, and yet, this truth is our greatest strength. You see, everything changes as we change. We see, hear, understand and experience differently through new beginnings. When we choose knowing truth over illusions, we naturally accelerate our growth through the unconditional loving support which has been with us always. There is so much that our Universe wants us to know about who we really are and what we can achieve! Perhaps we have misunderstood the purpose of our pain and the many injustices we have experienced already. Truth easily brings correction and supports a natural balance. As our perspectives shift through what is truth, the love, compassion, empathy and patience within us expands outwards, creating new loving beginnings for our relationships and experiences.

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Truth Shift

One Scared Girls Guide to Creating Mindful Change

By Tiffany Hawkins

Balboa Press

Copyright © 2017 Tiffany Hawkins
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-5043-8527-5

CHAPTER 1

WANTING CHANGE

I was on my hands and knees in my living room, sobbing. My head ached, my eyes hurt, and I could no longer breathe through my nose or see through the tears in my eyes. I can no longer remember the exact incident that brought me to my knees, but I do remember my pleading prayer for help. This painful moment happened one afternoon well after my ten-year commitment to changing myself and my life's circumstances. After so much hard work toward growth, how could something so minor still bring me to my knees? I did not feel like a strong, confident, or empowered woman.

The way we act out may be different, but the important thing to see is that we have been triggered by some event. Our minds may try to warn us that we are feeling a familiar pain that we do not like, but we get lost in the details of the current trigger and can see no further. Easily, we allow ourselves to fall down the rabbit hole and reexperience painful emotion, sometimes with a vengeance.

There on the floor, I cried out, "What is the point of all of this anyways? I am a good person! Was I just born to be punished? And for what exactly am I being punished?" This feeling of victimization was a familiar one, but this time I was tired of it. I was embarrassed by my own fearful weakness. I no longer wanted to identify myself as a scared or victimized girl because I hadn't been a little girl in quite some time. I decided that it was long past time that the emotional years caught up with the physical years before my body was done with me. On that day, I decided to shift my focus from the details that triggered me to the trigger itself.

Whenever we ask a question, we will be answered. The trick is being open to hearing the truthful answer before we compulsively answer our own questions. As this workbook progresses, you will understand much better how not to do this mostly automatic behavior.

I have learned that I have had many automatic behaviors that have interfered with my ability to change and transform myself as I wanted to. For example, I have had the pattern of repeatedly giving my power away to others. I would then unconsciously expect them to be grateful, behave a certain way, and be indebted to me. I set myself up to experience negative feelings like rejection and powerlessness because I never believed that I possessed the power that I was giving away in the first place.

We all possess intense power, and we create our experiences with this power. This same power can change our lives the moment we claim it. With this call to action, all the wisdom, knowledge, unconditional love, and support from what is truth can and does manifest itself into this conceptual toolbox. As we use each of these tools of truth, we quickly feel and experience our strength as we see what is real.

Truth's Toolbox

T = Truth — brings clarity

R = Responsibility — promotes self-empowerment and strength

U = Unity — increases compassion, empathy, and patience

T = Time — brings present-moment awareness

H = Health — maintains balance, stamina, and positive energy

S = Simplicity — reduces stress while creating space for truth

H = Habits — creates positive and healthy behaviors

I = Inspiration — spreads love, kindness, and support

F = Forgiveness — letting go of what is no longer serving our greatest good

T = Truth — creates the shifts that propel us toward being our truest selves

One of the first things to understand about what is truth is to learn what it is not. I kept learning about this thing called the ego, and I always found it to be a little confusing and creepy. Great, another reason to be afraid of myself. For example, Sigmund Freud tells us (paraphrasing) that the ego is a set of psychic functions using tolerance, defense, control, planning, and memory to synthesize information and test reality. A Course in Miracles says that the ego wants no part of truth because it is not true. If the ego is simply a function of my very own mind to help me mediate between my conscious and subconscious, why is it always speaking so negatively? What does that say about who I really am? Furthermore, how does a mental function become an "it" anyway? Soon after I asked this question, I was answered. I finally recognized my own ego with complete, humiliating clarity through memories that suddenly surfaced. I was simply folding laundry when it happened.

First, an old memory surfaced of a time I had behaved boldly and obnoxiously. I felt embarrassment as this memory surfaced, but instead of quickly burying it, I thought about it a little deeper and used the tool of truth to keep my mind clear and open. I wondered why I behaved that way when my intent behind the behavior felt different. Then similar memories quickly followed as if to drive the message home. With no effort on my part, I could see a clear pattern. I understood with complete clarity that I was witnessing my own ego in action. In each incident, it was like every other part of me took a backseat so that my ego could be the one handling the situation. In each instance, my ego was completely in charge. It was easy for me to comprehend that it was obtaining intense energy for an unmet emotional need, and it was attempting to satisfy this need by running my thoughts, speech, and behaviors. In each case, the wanting or needing that I felt inside in no way matched my negative behavior, but because my need was a valid need for me, I could mentally justify my behavior at the time. It was the memories that caused me to cringe with shame and embarrassment. As these memories surfaced, my mind wanted to quickly rationalize those behaviors and bury them back down inside so that I could stop feeling embarrassment, but I held strong to my tool of truth because I understood that my question was being answered.

Whenever we use any of the tools of truth, we are the ones who remain mindfully in charge. Just by being mindful, we automatically begin operating at a higher vibration. Simply stated, as you use a tool, you become an observer of what is happening without so much (if any) emotional pull.

Once I recognized my own ego in action, I found that I could recognize it in others. The thing about egos is that once they become recognized, you can develop strategies to manage them without being emotionally triggered by them. All egos can become easily manageable as you learn to recognize their unique behaviors.

Meeting BOB

I needed to be able to conceptualize my ego in a way that I could learn how to work with it or around it. I knew that it would be much harder for me to accomplish any of my goals for mindful, loving change as it continued to flood my brain with negative self-talk fueled by the guilt, embarrassment, shame, or just plain fear I apparently still possessed. So I created BOB, a very willing and flexible ego who is very capable of making mindful, loving changes.

Here is how BOB came to be: We will always have needs, and from the moment we are born, we begin learning ways to get what we need. Every time a need is met, a happy, chemical, reward response floods our brains, and new little pathways to repeated rewards for the future are created. Then, each time we successfully repeat a behavior that triggers this...

Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: BalboaPress
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2017
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 1504385276
• ISBN 13: 9781504385275
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 132
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