Restore, Refresh, & Rebuild ; A Manuscript for Healthy Relationships - Softcover

Wilkerson, I'jale L.

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1504922522 ISBN 13: 9781504922524

Verlag: AuthorHouse, 2015

Inhaltsangabe

I believe the experience in my life that brought about change was the birth of my children. In becoming a parent, you learn that it is no longer about yourself anymore but putting aside yourself for others. Along with parenting come responsibility, sleepless days and nights, and sacrifice. I value and cherish my children with my whole heart. There is nothing more precious than carrying someone inside of you and loving that child before you see him or her. No love is greater than a mother's love, which is unconditional and pure! Enjoy the good things in your life while the children are little, for they will be taken away one good day.

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Restore, Refresh, & Rebuild

By I'Jale L. Wilkerson

AuthorHouse

Copyright © 2015 I'Jale L. Wilkerson
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-5049-2252-4

Contents

Preface, ix, 
Chapter 1 Change, 1, 
Chapter 2 Superpower of Love, 5, 
Chapter 3 Woman of Wisdom, 9, 
Chapter 4 Renew Your Spirit, 19, 
Chapter 5 Encourage One Another, 27, 
Chapter 6 My Testimony, 33, 
Chapter 7 Confusion and Division, 49, 
Chapter 8 A Wife's Prayer for Her Husband, 51, 
Chapter 9 Together Forever, 59, 

CHAPTER 1

Change

I struggled with change for most of my childhood. Whether it was moving into a new neighborhood, going to a new school, or making new friends, I was not into it. I was often told to let things flow because that change was good. As I grew older, I understood that change was necessary and that elevation required either separation or isolation.

As we grow, we gain wisdom and understanding. We must be willing to accept change and embrace it. Many things bring about change in our lives daily. I'm the mother to three beautiful children and am now engaged, so my life changes on a daily basis with my kids, school, work, and fiancé. We must set an example for change that can be carried on for generations. Some families do not take advantage of change because they are focused on being big shots. For example, if a woman is disrespectful to her man while dating, she will be disrespectful while engaged and then disrespectful while married. Then when she has kids, she will still disrespect him, and the kids will disrespect their daddy and grow up not respecting men in general. The woman's daughter will grow up to disrespect her boyfriend, fiancé, and husband! Do you see the pattern? At some point we have to break this cycle of rebellion and disrespect. Women scream, "There are no good men!" while bashing them with their words. You cannot build up while tearing down, so choose which one you will do.

At some point in our lives, we have to put away our childish ways and grow into our destinies. We must watch what comes out of our mouths and stop speaking the wrong things. Proverbs 18:21 says, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue: they that love it, shall eat the fruits thereof," but many do not believe that we speak life and death to situations and people. Parents have to stop saying, "Oh, my child is bad," or "He will not be anything in life." If they don't, what will they get? Their children will grow up to be drunks or troublemakers.

If we love negativity, we will reap negative fruit; if we love positivity, we will reap positive fruit. The tongue is the most powerful member of the body. Some individuals cannot control their tongues and get into altercations or even killed. We must be slow to speak and quick to listen! We cannot fight fire with fire and expect a rainbow when the flames are put out.

The first of the Ten Commandments says to love and honor God with all our hearts. Tithes and offerings are considered worship. The devil schemes so that we will miss our blessings. Don't feed into or listen to negative things. Scripture says, "Seek and ye shall find." We speak things into existence. We should not stay bound or heavyhearted, but rather pray without ceasing.

The birth of my children changed my life. In becoming a parent, I learned that it was no longer about me anymore, but rather putting myself aside for others. With parenting come responsibility, sleepless days and nights, and sacrifice. I value and cherish my children with my whole heart. There is nothing more precious than carrying someone inside of you and loving that child before you even see him or her. Now that's love! No love is greater than a mother's love, which is unconditional and pure.

Enjoy the good things in your life while they are little, for one day they will be taken away. Matthew 12:34–35 says, "O generation of vipers, how can you speak good things, whereas you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. A good man out of good treasure bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of an evil treasure bringeth forth evil things." The mouth speaks what the heart feels. We must be careful about our thoughts because whatever is on the inside will come out. God allows us to go through things so that we can speak what our hearts feel.

Kids are our main observers. We must present ourselves in a way that is pleasing to God and remember that our kids are watching our every move.

CHAPTER 2

Superpower of Love

The devil purposely attacks families to confuse, divide, and destroy love and communication. Relationships should be taken seriously, and children should be trained up so that when they are older, they shall not depart from it. Genesis 1:26–30 says that God wants us to be fruitful and multiply. Many may think, "How can I produce children whom I cannot support?" That's where faith enters in. No person is fully equipped to care for a child, but once the child is born, instinct takes over.

When individuals enter your life, they should add positivity to it and protect it. If there is subtraction and lack of growth, you must let go of those people.

God shows us how we should approach others, and we must be careful with whom we connect. We should connect with those similar to us, not with those who are so far off that we must reach them in so many ways. When God connects us with someone, it's for eternity. We do not go through life alone.

However, if people want to walk out of our lives, we must let them go. If they are willing to leave, their presence was not necessarily what God desired for our lives. We have to learn to let go and let God take control. Sometimes we tend to hold on to the things that God is trying to remove. We cannot enter a season of blessing if we are not willing to let go of the bad seeds. We often become uncomfortable and discouraged, but that is a sign that God is moving us into place for a blessing. Some people will never see us as good enough, but that is their shortcoming, not ours. We must be merciful to ourselves and cut them out of our lives. We must love ourselves first.

God established the family. We should turn our family over to God so that he can keep us. We should not be so quick to marry. We should take our time and get counseling to ensure that we are on the same page spiritually so that the seeds we sow will reap a harvest.

A man shall leave his mother and father and cling to his wife. A man that finds a woman finds a good thing. God created everything for a purpose. Marriages and families are under attack daily. The devil wants to break up the family, which is why there is so much division and confusion. Believe in the Word of God and know him for yourself. Believe that he can keep the family together, and go to him in prayer and war for your family! Love is our superpower, and it conquers all.

We have to wake up and pray for one another and our kids daily because the devil is busy and does not want the next generation to prosper and succeed. Do not give Satan the satisfaction by not praying for your kids. Cover your kids with the blood of Jesus daily, for the devil is wandering restlessly to take control of our loved ones. God says, "If you love me, keep my commandments." Without faith it is impossible to please him.

CHAPTER 3

Woman of Wisdom

In this chapter, women will receive golden nuggets of wisdom. We all desire a life of happiness with husbands sent from God. This will be your reality-check session! Grab your pen,...

Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: AuthorHouse
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2015
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 1504922522
• ISBN 13: 9781504922524
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 76
• Kontakt zum Hersteller: Nicht verfügbar
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