Flourishing Together: Guide To Appreciative Inquiry Coaching - Softcover

Subirana, Miriam

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1785353764 ISBN 13: 9781785353765

Verlag: Obooks, 2016

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How can we help each other flourish? Flourishing Together explores ways of understanding the power of our conversations, the language we use, and the images we share. Flourishing Together gives guidelines to coaches to include appreciative and social constructionist ways in their practice. It will help parents to improve their capacity to empower the best in their children and support them in what will make them flourish. As a leader, this book will open new possibilities for your improvement and help you in creating better and more flourishing connections with your team. As a reader, the book will offer you the possibilities to walk into the areas in your life that need more light, and will help you see your own personal history with new eyes.

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Miriam Subirana shares her profession as a painter and writer with being a teacher of meditation and positive thinking. She coordinates programmes, projects, seminars and retreats whose objective is to refind and live your own identity and enjoy a fuller life. She lives in Barcelona, Spain.

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Flourishing Together

Guide to Appreciative Inquiry Coaching

By Miriam Subirana, Caroline Wilson

John Hunt Publishing Ltd.

Copyright © 2015 Miriam Subirana
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-78535-376-5

Contents

Preface by Diana Whitney, 
Introduction, 
Part I: Accompanying people, 
1. Opening the door, 
2. Paths within, 
3. In search of liberation, 
4. Going through suffering and vulnerability, 
5. Broadening perspectives, 
6. Appreciating, 
7. Living to your full potential, 
8. Language of abundance, 
Part II: Flourishing together, 
9. Flourishing, 
10. Sharing in wholeness, 
11. Coaching to flourish, 
Part III: Appreciative Inquiry Coaching, 
12. Appreciative inquiry coaching, 
13. Premises, 
14. Principles, 
15. Questions, 
16. Generative processes, 
17. What features make appreciative inquiry coaching different?, 
18. Coaching for leaders by Joep C. de Jong, 
19. Ethical code of appreciative inquiry coaching, 
Part IV: The person who accompanies another/others. The accompanier. The coach., 
20. The coach, 
21. Thinking partner, 
22. Presence, 
23. Meditation and mindful coaching, 
Bibliography, 
Notes, 

CHAPTER 1

Opening the door

Accompanying a person in the discovery of themselves, in resolving their crossroads or dispelling their clouds, is both a fascinating task and a big responsibility. In each encounter I continue to be surprised at the great mystery that we are as human beings. In the realms of our being there are many things, much of them unnecessary, such as noise and heavy baggage, incrusted experiences that are difficult to get rid of, but we also find a great capacity for imagination and creativity, and surprisingly, everything that we are looking for and that we need is there. It remains hidden by emotions and dramatic, almost histrionic thoughts, locked up by our fears and doubts. It is so near, less than a millimetre away and requiring less than a second to reach it. However, we travel miles in search of it and years pass until we manage to prise open the door even a tiny way to where the treasure we long for resides.

Day after day I ask myself – What, then, is my responsibility as a coach, as a person who offers herself to accompany you on your search, on your journey through life? As I go forwards, my listening becomes more open and more subtle. From my inner silence, I connect with what the other asks of me, or rather with what they are asking of themselves. In that space of active and silent listening, a question emerges. It is always appreciative. My experience has shown me, over and over again, that, to open the doors of our inner realms and go into them, we should connect to our strengths, trust and be brave. To do so, it is essential to be appreciative. An appreciative question opens you up gently so that you can see without getting blocked or overwhelmed.

Appreciating, you value, you recognise, you enhance the beauty of the other. Your appreciative presence empowers their self-confidence, opening them up to you and themselves. They open up in order to see and become aware of their self-created monsters which are like paper tigers. With just a match, they can burn them away if so desired, if the courage can be found. They open up to enter silently into themselves and listen. Then we listen together. Together we create a new reality that arises out of feeling ourselves and a generative conversation. Generative, because it generates a different state to the one we had before beginning the conversation. Generative, since it leads us to other spaces where the reality that we create is kind and helps us to go forward.

In coaching I accompany the person to go down the paths that take them within. Perhaps the person is looking to improve a relationship, change jobs or be successful in their endeavour, be it to do with work or personal. On holding a first conversation on what the main topic of the coaching sessions will be, we begin to remove layers of objectives that take them back outside of themselves. We glimpse that the subject to be dealt with covers their life, yes, their work, yes, but above all it covers their heart and mind; in sum, their soul and their relational being, which is fruit of the relationships that they have had and still have.

To accompany you in going more deeply into your soul, if I am not appreciative, I can bring on unnecessary suffering. Forcing it with questions that are more like a blow than a springboard, I can enable you to open the doors of your inner realms, but I won't have connected you to the passion for the mystery that lies within you; rather to the fears dwelling in the Pandora's box that might open or is already open.

Being appreciative does not mean that I only focus on the positive and on your strengths, but rather that I value your vulnerability as an opportunity, welcome your suffering as a path to go down in order to free you from that which no longer nourishes you, and listen to your doubts and your questions so that they can become the keys which will open your inner realms. Let us look at those paths that lead us there.

CHAPTER 2

Paths within

We are very taken up with searching outside of ourselves.

We are overstimulated and we depend on being so in order to feel emotions. We live a lot in the mind. We have even left our hearts in order to take up residence in the mind. On making the mind our home, we stay busy by filling it with worries, anxiety, frustrations, upsets and endless thoughts that stir us up and make us act in a different way than we might wish to. Thus, we bury our true heart, the heart of the soul. And in this act of burying we forget. We forget the resources that lie within us. Let us remember them in order to leave behind the meaningless void that so much distraction and noise leaves us in.

Let us remember wisely. One of the keys to transformation is knowing how to forget and how to remember. With remembering we return to our essence, we bring back the memory of our essential being. The capacity to forget and to remember is an extraordinary faculty that we have. If we know how to use it, we will achieve wholeness. Don't forget what you have to remember. Don't remember what you should forget.

To feel complete, it would help you to stop looking outside for what is already within you. You were born with it but you were probably never taught to look inside yourself, and you have spent your life searching on the outside. This brought about misencounters on the path, disappointment and constant dissatisfaction. Dissatisfaction arises from an inner emptiness that you want to fill. But when you are like a bucket with holes in it, it doesn't matter how much water you pour in, the bucket never fills. You run after the desires brought about by this deep dissatisfaction and you stop being present. You are trying to achieve something; when you do, it dissolves in moments like sugar in the mouth. And the dissatisfaction seems impossible to overcome.

To stop being the puppets of our desires, appreciative inquiry proposes that we connect to our essential desire. Knowing what you want helps you to align your energies; that way you manifest the power of a clear intention. Everything we do is propelled by an intention and motivation. It might have as an end the mere fact of satisfying a need, a desire or an addiction, or it might be to achieve a more intangible aim or wish. It is an essential desire because it is aligned with...

Details zur Ausgabe

• Verlag: Obooks
• Erscheinungsdatum: 2016
• Sprache: Englisch
• ISBN 10: 1785353764
• ISBN 13: 9781785353765
• Einband: Taschenbuch
• Anzahl der Seiten: 208
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