Jandy Kelley, Author of the book, “Grief As I Know It”, brings you her latest life's study, “Beliefs, Boundaries & Balance”, Tools to Finding Your Way To Inner Peace. In this project, Jandy shares with you a straight forward account of how we become wired, tired, unbalanced and unhappy in today's hectic lifestyle. Once the reader has uncovered the mystery of why they are at their wit's end, Jandy provides the reader with easy and effective tools to work through the many difficult barriers of life and allowing them to come out on the other side and to ultimately obtain inner peace.
Beliefs, Boundaries & Balance
Tools To Finding Your Way To Inner PeaceBy Jandy MarchandAuthorHouse
Copyright © 2010 Jandy Marchand
All right reserved.ISBN: 978-1-4520-1921-5 Contents
Chapter 1: Beliefs........................1Chapter 2: Boundaries.....................37Chapter 3: Balance........................139
Chapter One
Beliefs Guard your heart above all else for it determines the course of your life. Avoid all perverse talk; stay away from corrupt speech. (Prov: 4 23-24)
You are:
Scenario #1
You have too many work meetings that run into late evenings. You are constantly juggling from one child's activity to another. You have church every Wednesday night and Sunday morning, as well as leadership involvement. You are married and have household duties to attend to, as well as family events with in-laws almost weekly. Your work is never done, and so you bring your work home with you, keeping you up at times into the wee hours.
Scenario #2
You have never really been alone. You went from home to a marriage or have always been in a relationship. You tend to be jealous and feel uneasy when you do not have others around. You get involved in your friends drama and tend to be the advice giver. You work very hard and over achieve in your job, yet feel empty inside. You have all of this going on, yet feel alone.
Scenario #3
You never say "no." Everyone loves you because you are so giving! People tend to think you are an angel because you are always there in a crisis. You volunteer at church and your local hospital. Your adult children often drop off their children with you at the last minute, but you are there for them in a pinch. You don't mention to your husband that you really do mind that he spends the weekends golfing with the boys even after not seeing him all week from work. Instead of taking much needed vacations you loan the money you have saved to your child who can't seem to keep a job and is still living at home. You KNOW though he has talent somewhere in there and one day will use it. You think the best of everyone and when disappointed think that it must have been something you did.
Scenario #4
You have always been admired for your beauty. No one thinks you have a care in the world. You walk strongly and confidently into a room. Friends talk about your jet-set lifestyle; if they only knew the debt that was behind it. Everyone thinks you have the best husband. You try to remember that when he is hitting you and you hide behind your sunglasses for days or don't leave the house. But, you are grateful to have the things that you have and your children need the stability of their father. This is what you tell yourself when you have those pangs of fear of leaving or of admitting that your life really isn't what is portrayed.
Scenario #5
School wasn't for you. That is for people who are privileged. You are street smart and proud of it. At least you don't have all those school loan payments. You know that you are a hard worker. You know your father always told you that you wouldn't amount to anything but you try not to think about that. You look around at your surroundings and think about how you wish you could win the lottery. Wouldn't that be a dream! Your boss tells you he doesn't know why you work in a menial job because you are very talented, but you laugh because he is the owner and you aren't worthy. Those kinds of opportunities are for other people.
Scenario #6
You work so hard all week and play just as hard. You don't shy away if a drink is handed to you. You don't see anything wrong with putting a few away at night after a long day. If it was okay for your parents it is okay for you. You know you should be better about getting up on time and not being late for work but feel that your boss shouldn't be so in your business as long as you get your work done. You don't know what the big deal is. It is hard for you to keep or make commitments when you said you would do something. People just need to understand you do things in your own time and that you don't like to be weighed down. You don't know why people get so frustrated or worked up when you forget details or conversations. Not having to think too much or hash out situations seems ideal to you ... then you aren't disappointing anyone.
Scenario #7
You REALLY think THIS one is going to be the right guy! He won't be like the rest who have opened up very quickly too you, even proposing quickly and then disappearing. Well, even though he has opened pretty fast and is starting to talk about marriage, you see a difference in him. He wants a real commitment. Even though you have only been dating three months he wants to move in already, he must really love you to want to make a REAL commitment like that. You know that he is having some hard times having lost his job and being behind on some bills, but you know he is going to get that fixed because he said he is looking for a new job and once that happens, all of these problems will be gone. He told you so. You know paying the rent and utilities by yourself won't last long. You are so excited because in a few months, when all of this is handled, he said he wants to buy you a big engagement ring. He knows how you've always wanted a big diamond. It will look beautiful on your hand!
Scenario #8
You know your place as a good Christian girl is to not stir things up. Your mom and dad taught you so many wonderful and proper things in how to be a good young lady. You know your husband doesn't really mean it when he calls you those names. You avoid your feelings because once again you will just be a "drama queen" if you bring that stuff up. You know your friends really love you even though they seem to go away when they don't need something from you. You know at times they talk down to you but figure you deserve it. You know you don't make the best decisions at times and they are probably right.
Scenario #9
You know last night you should have just gone home instead of saying yes. Now you are trapped yet again. Hopefully he won't invite you to breakfast ... that would just be painful. You said you would never do this again. You want to say no but when you are in the moment can't seem to. This is the third time the last few months that you have done this. Maybe you can get up and sneak out, just in time to go home and clean up so that you can go to church and make your parents proud. You don't want to disappoint them.
Scenario #10
You are the baby of the family. You know your parents love you, but you never seem to measure up. You make a good salary ... but it isn't exactly what your siblings make. You make a lot of effort, even more than your siblings, but fault tends to find you first, even when not warranted. Comments towards you are not clear and you often feel guilty or like a failure. You just wonder why or how this happened. You think you are a good person, but don't know why you tend to be left out.
Scenario #11
You are always tired. Maybe it's because you are sick all the time. You know you should take better care of yourself. The doctor even said you really needed to lose 70 pounds. Exercise is just so hard and you are so busy. Well, at least during the day at work. But you are so tired when you get home. That couch just feels so good and you don't have time to really cook so the drive-thru...
