As a doctor of the human psyche, author R. Duncan Wallace believes in not only offering good medicine and science, but also offering solutions and solace to those who are experiencing psychological pain, emotional distress, and difficulty making their way. In The Book of Psychological Truths, Wallace provides a useful guide on how to live a happier, more satisfying life. Over the course of his forty-eight-year career, Wallace has compiled a set of truths that will help you grow your capability, outgrow problems, and overcome obstacles. The Book of Psychological Truths shows you how to - remove mental pressure and pain and strengthen self-power; - use psychological truths to remove barriers and increase your abilities; - enhance your relationships and communicate in the best possible ways; - develop the stances and attitudes that produce success; - handle situational anxieties and understand their value; - solve and remove severe psychological pains and complexes; - have and enjoy excellent, ongoing quality of life. The Book of Psychological Truths shows that when you use the power and value of these truths by choice and with awareness, you can greatly increase your personal evolution and influence society's evolution in wise ways.
THE BOOK OF PSYCHOLOGICAL TRUTHS
A Psychiatrist's Guide to Really Good Thinking for Really Great LivingBy R. Duncan WallaceiUniverse, Inc.
Copyright © 2012 R. Duncan Wallace, MD
All right reserved.ISBN: 978-1-4620-1561-0 Contents
Introduction...............................................................................................viiChapter 1—How to Eliminate Mental Pressure and Personal Stress.......................................3Chapter 2—How to Deal with Painful Emotions and Make New Discoveries.................................23Chapter 3—Increase Your Self-Power and Know Its Hidden Values........................................58Chapter 4—Our Mastery Mechanism: The Accomplisher....................................................87Chapter 5—The Flow of Certainty and Uncertainty in Our Minds.........................................101Chapter 6—Mind Functions and How Best to Use Them....................................................123Chapter 7—Our Greatest Forces: Actual Reality and Truth..............................................131Chapter 8—The Remarkable Force of Increase: The Growth and Wisdom it Gives...........................136Chapter 9—The Clear and Beautiful Truths about Motivation............................................148Chapter 10—Search Out the New to Increase Your Understanding and Capability..........................181Chapter 11—Belonging and Your Basic Loyalties........................................................198Chapter 12—How to Grace and Honor Your Relationships.................................................219Chapter 13—Clear Communication.......................................................................229Chapter 14—Psychological Stances and Monitoring Positions............................................241Chapter 15—Mattering, Influence, and Self-Esteem.....................................................251Chapter 16—Methods of Handling Situational Anxieties.................................................273Chapter 17—Guilt, Remorse, and Psychological Depression..............................................295Chapter 18—Overcoming Early Devastation..............................................................307Chapter 19—Regaining Meaningful Purpose..............................................................317Chapter 20—How to Understand and Face Despair........................................................324Chapter 21—Accepting and Integrating Undesirable Past Actions into the Present.......................332Chapter 22—The Arrival of Trusted Life-Handling Capability...........................................345Chapter 23—How to Create an Enduring Psychological and Emotional Quality of Life.....................351Epilogue Looking Back and Looking Forward.................................................................367Endnotes...................................................................................................371Index......................................................................................................373
Chapter One
How to Eliminate Mental Pressure and Personal Stress
You have the ability to release mental pressure and stress. When you learn to release mental pressure, your health and quality of life will improve dramatically.
Would you like to function without feeling mental pressure or stress? You can! You can remove all of your mental pressure and most of your personal stress immediately and, eventually, permanently. You know how bad it is to feel the pain of stress and mental pressure. At times, you have probably said, "I'm all stressed out. I hate this pressure and can't stand it anymore!" The good news is that you don't have to stand it anymore. When you know what to do, you can fix it.
This chapter shows you how to remove mental pressure quickly and decisively. When you do, you will be well on your way to possessing amazing ability and a free feeling that you never dreamed possible. Immediately your health, general well-being, and quality of life will be enhanced, and your energy will increase. You will feel lighter, laugh more, and love life more. You will be far more efficient and able to accomplish much more. It's true that you can enjoy a constant state of active tranquility.
Mental pressure is universal, causing most of our personal stress. Mental pressure develops in us naturally as we grow up. It is the most common psychological pain in our busy, frantic, modern-day life. Yet it doesn't need to be.
In this first chapter you will learn the cause of mental pressure, how to recognize it, and how to quickly remove it through your own releaser thought. Then you will see how to continuously bypass creating it through correcting the error that causes it, by using a subtle but powerful psychological truth.
When you remove your mental pressure, you will have much greater well-being and a continuous feeling of active tranquility in your mind. You will accomplish more with less effort; your efficiency and effectiveness will increase in everything you do.
The opening workplace example that follows will familiarize you with how a pressured and stressed employee thinks, feels, and functions, versus how one who is not mentally pressured or stressed goes about his work.
A Tale of Two Employees
It was already 2:30 p.m. Jim was feeling worried and harassed by all of the things he had planned on doing by 6:00, so that he could attend an important company function at 7:00, a dinner to honor employees with ten or more years of service. Jim was new to the company and wanted to make a good impression with management by attending, but he had so much to do; he had even skipped lunch. He fretted, How will I ever get it all done by tonight? He knew his boss wanted a report presented at the committee meeting tomorrow, and he estimated that he would barely make the deadline if he could get everything together. He silently talked to himself as he worked, pressuring himself to hurry.
Then the boss stopped by his desk and asked him to include one more analysis in his report. Jim smiled, said okay, and kept himself from blowing up. For the next ten minutes, he experienced fear that he wouldn't get it done, but he pressured himself with, I have to. I've got to hurry. I've only got three hours left! He did get it done but went to the dinner suffering from a headache. That night he fell asleep, exhausted.
George, who worked in the same department, had been with the company for three years. He, too, had reports to prepare for tomorrow's committee meeting—not one, but two reports. Yet George went to lunch that day with colleagues and attended the company dinner that night. Not only that, but George was friendly and open, had a smile for people, and generally appeared unruffled and calm. He had invited Jim to join the group for lunch that day, but Jim had declined due to his workload and his concerns about it.
At the end of the corporate dinner, they chatted briefly. Jim revealed how bad it had been for him that day—the pressure he'd felt, the worry he'd had, and how mentally taxing his job was. He asked George why he'd appeared so relaxed and unruffled during the day, and how he could take time off for lunch with reports due. "Don't you feel the stress too?" he asked.
"No, no I don't," said George. "But I used to until I learned not to. I rarely, if ever, feel pressure or stress anymore; I don't create it....
