No More DIVORCE for you and me

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Contents

INTRODUCTION.............................................................................1It's Just Plain Hard.....................................................................5Treat the Opposite Like a Friend?........................................................6Honest, Being Alone is OK................................................................7No Jumping Allowed.......................................................................9The Art of Making Someone Else Happy.....................................................10Insecurity, Mass Murderer of Relationships...............................................11Perfection is a 4 Letter Word............................................................12Love is Overrated........................................................................13Finding Your 'Big Why'...................................................................14Spend the Rest of Your Life Alone ... and Mean It........................................15Would Someone Want to Date You?..........................................................17Sex is the Devil.........................................................................21I Love You...............................................................................22Extending the disInvitation..............................................................23Daily Affection..........................................................................24A Little Preparation Might Be Nice.......................................................25You're Safe!.............................................................................26The Powerful Law of Attraction...........................................................27Freakin' Pitiful.........................................................................28I Have to Communicate?...................................................................30I'm So Alone. Hallelujah!!!..............................................................31Are You Nuts?............................................................................32Plant Your Own Darn Seeds!...............................................................34Don't Worry About Understanding Me, Just Understand This is How I Am.....................36Why Do You Need to Know Their Names?.....................................................39I Don't Have to Forgive Someone..........................................................41No Fault Divorce! BULL* *&%&$............................................................42You Have a Choice. Use It!...............................................................47Carol, I'll Never Forget.................................................................49Start Designing Your Future..............................................................52Practice Dating..........................................................................53Sublety Has No Place in a Marriage.......................................................54You Can't Make Someone With Low Self-Esteem Love You.....................................56My Definition of a Positive Attitude.....................................................57Maintain Some Independence...............................................................58The Different Looks of Divorce Success...................................................60Big No-No for Men........................................................................62The Common Thread........................................................................63Step Children and Natural Children.......................................................67Change Your Inside.......................................................................69How to Stop Loving Them..................................................................70The Hidden Emotional Costs of Divorce....................................................75Will There Be Laughter in Your Future?...................................................76How to Heal Emotional Divorce Scars......................................................79Share Your Ideas and See the Results.....................................................81Lonesome vs. Lonely......................................................................83Battle of the Heart vs. Common Sense.....................................................85I Love Them, I Just Don't Like Them!!....................................................87I Miss Him Randy.........................................................................88Your Life Has a Common Thread. Find It...................................................90Getting Divorced—There is No Gray Area.............................................93Divorce DEMANDS You Surround Yourself with Honesty.......................................95Divorce & Panic Attacks, I Hate Them Both!!..............................................97It Takes Guts to Face a Divorce..........................................................99Children Should NOT Be a Part of Divorce.................................................103What Footsteps Will You Leave During Your Divorce?.......................................104Are You Riding Shotgun to Your Fear?.....................................................105Don't Forget the Healing Power of the Small Things in Life...............................106Divorce Perspective......................................................................107Marriage and Divorce Are on the Same Road................................................108An End Means a Beginning.................................................................109It Was Just Cancer, Not Divorce!.........................................................110How Can I Be Mentally Tough When I'm Getting Divorced? Seven Tips........................119Why Me, You Ask. I'm a Good Person.......................................................122What Did You Do Today to Survive Divorce?................................................123I Accomplished My Impossible This Holiday!...............................................124Pity + Self-Pity. A Sure Disaster........................................................125Divorce is a Serious Business............................................................129A Funny Step I Used to Start Recovering..................................................130My Toughest Job is Not Taking Advantage of My Wife.......................................131A Couple of Tips When Ending a Relationship..............................................133Go Ahead, Play the Victim................................................................134Change Course IMMEDIATELY!...............................................................135Learn to Outsmart Yourself...............................................................137Battle of the Heart vs. Common Sense.....................................................139YOU Are a WINNER!........................................................................141Things to Avoid Saying During Your Divorce to Your STBX..................................143VERBAL ASSAULT. The Wounds That Never Heal...............................................146Final Words..............................................................................149

Chapter One

It's Just Plain Hard

There is something you need to hear and absorb and understand as you read through this book:

If you take even one piece of advice from me and start applying it to your life, it will...