CHAPTER 1
XXX Hi, How Are You?
Such a simple question, we say it and hear it every day. It rolls off the tongue so easily, often without a thought. Often we don't even wait for or want the answer.
We are asking you because we really want to know how you are. Think about it and be honest with yourself. How are you? How do you feel? How is your life?
If your honest answer is something like "I'm full of joy, I'm truly blessed, I'm at total peace, and I'm fantastic," then we are really happy for you. You are one of those few people who has found a state of being that everyone is looking for, and we wish you well.
But if your answer to this question is not as great as you would like it to be, then let us tell you that the book you hold in your hands may be the key to unlocking the door that stands between your current state of how you feel and a better life that can be yours.
Imagine living a life that every day you felt great, every day you felt blessed, and every day you were at peace. Life would be wonderful.
What? You don't believe that this is possible? Well, let us tell you that it is. We know, because we did it. We have discovered the way to a better life and would like to share it with you.
We changed our lives!
Now we didn't change where we lived, we didn't change our jobs, we didn't change our relationship status, and we didn't change our circumstances in any way. What we did change was how we felt about all these things.
Are you going to wake up one day when the majority of your life will be behind you and wonder what it was it all for? This is not how life was supposed to be, and we all know it down to our core. That's why we keep wondering and thinking, This can't be it. We know there must be a bigger, better life out there!
Well, there is!
As much as you have made this life for yourself, you can make a new life. New habits can be formed and your life can be changed. It's never too late. Don't waste another week, day, or minute.
This book is going to show you the way; it is a guide to changing your life, and your habits. It will show you how to form new ones. It will show you that you have a choice to either keep going on the treadmill of life that you're on now or to create a better life for yourself.
So if you would like to be able to answer the question "How are you?" with a more positive response and you would like to have more joy in your life, then we invite you to listen to what we have to say and maybe you will start to feel better about yourself and your life. What do you have to lose?
Mmmm ... What to do? Crappy life or awesome life? Gee, what to do? I think I will make a change. What do I have to lose? Good decision!
Reading this book will assist you to open your mind and accept the possibility that there could be a better life for you. By picking up this book, you have already taken the first step towards your new future.
CHAPTER 2
So Here We Go ...
Do you have a constant stream of thoughts running through your head?
Do you have trouble thinking clearly?
Do you find yourself thinking about a lot of things at once?
Do you overthink things?
Do you worry about things that may or may not happen?
Are your thoughts chaotic?
Do you feel lost?
Do you feel inadequate?
Do you have trouble coping?
Do you worry about what other people think about you?
Do you feel you're not good enough?
Is life a struggle?
Do you think, What's the point?
Do you keep thinking about mistakes you have made in the past or dwelling on negative things from your childhood?
Do you feel like every day is the same: getting up, getting ready, going to work, coming home, having dinner, sitting for an hour watching some rubbish on TV, going to bed, getting up, and doing it all over again?
Maybe you're running after kids, working long hours, having sick or elderly parents to care for, or you never seem to have any time for yourself! It's just one thing after another, same thing day in day out! There is never enough time to enjoy life!
The weekend comes around and you spend it doing chores you didn't have time for during the week. At the blink of an eye, the weekend is over. Sunday night is here. You go to bed late trying to prolong the weekend. You get up tired Monday morning to do it all over again!
People give up days and weeks of their lives being consumed by other people's drama; usually it's reality TV shows or following the outcome of news events. We spend many hours on things that don't mean anything to us personally. Some people's lives revolve around Facebook, social media, and computer games.
There are so many distractions in life. People spend so much of their time trying to obtain possessions and making a living that they actually forget that anything else is possible.
Many of us spend a lot of our time thinking and focussing on the negative aspects of life. We get so caught up and lost that we forget what life is truly about.
We didn't plan our lives to be this way. These are just habits that we have unintentionally made for ourselves.
We have come to the realization that OUR THOUGHTS ARE OUR LIFE AND OUR LIFE IS OUR THOUGHTS.
Thoughts are everything. Our thoughts determine everything we do. Our thoughts determine who we are.
Our thoughts determine every decision and every choice we make.
Every single person, every single day, deals with their thoughts. Some are just better at it than others. For some it comes naturally, others need to work at it, and others have just given up.
For most of us, it's a constant battle trying to deal with our thoughts. We are so lost in our daily struggle of life that we don't even realise that we are no longer in control. Our negative thoughts have taken over. We are just passengers in our life being driven in directions that we don't even want to go, holding on and dealing with each day.
The thoughts in your head can be very cunning and manipulative. They draw great satisfaction in telling us that we're not smart enough, not pretty enough, and not good enough. Our thoughts criticise, debate, accuse, object, attack, and find fault.
Often our thoughts don't have anything to do with our current situation; our thoughts often make judgements based on past events or create scenarios of anything and everything that could possibly go wrong in the future. This causes us to worry.
Our thoughts can turn our power against ourselves. They take on a life of their own and like all forms of life fight to...
