Looking at Yourself
A group of self-awareness toolsBy Ron NitchieAuthorHouse
Copyright © 2011 Ron Nitchie
All right reserved.ISBN: 978-1-4670-6659-4Contents
My Reason and Sources for this Book........................1Your greatest strength.....................................3Be Positive................................................4Stop, Look and Listen......................................6Being Open Minded..........................................8Hearing vs. Listening......................................9Listening..................................................11Assume.....................................................12Silent Communications......................................13Gut Feeling................................................16Education, Experience and Common Sense.....................18Education..................................................20Work Ethics................................................22Production.................................................24It's OK to ask Questions...................................25Success....................................................27No Problems Here...........................................30Failure can be Good........................................31Nobody likes me............................................33Happenings.................................................35Ignore the GAP.............................................36The Basic Principles.......................................38Now Who is Important.......................................39The Next Step..............................................42My Team....................................................44Team Membership............................................46People & Respect...........................................47Looking at Yourself (recap)................................49
Chapter One
My Reasons and Sources for this Book This is what I have found and learned.
"Looking at Yourself," what a horrible thought unless your thoughts are vane and you're holding a mirror. I will be the first to admit that it is tough to realize that I may be the problem of anything. If there is a problem, then it must be the other person or group. To anyone that finds this topic is not for them, then you can just about bet that you are one that will need it the most. To those that are totally self-centered, PLEASE, buy my book to hit yourself on the head to do the most good, don't read it.
I have written these short (quotes) responses and quick editorials to the actions or situations I have either seen or been involved in. It is in me to see what goes on behind the surface of any situation. If it is something bad, then how do we prevent it from getting worse or happening another time. If it is something good, then how do we recognize the people involved and make this good moment known.
I had found some time ago that people don't like long explanations. With this, my mind began creating short phrases and articles. These phrases could then be memorized and the articles are quick to read. They are all for self-recognition or sharing experience with knowledge.
It is impossible for me to acknowledge all the people that unknowingly gave me a subject or reaffirmed a subject.
I am proud of what I have experienced and can share with you. Please read and help others achieve.
Ron Nitchie
Your greatest strength today
May be admitting one of your weaknesses!
RLN May '09
Be Positive
If you don't have a positive attitude
You may not recognize a positive action or comment
RLN November 2008
Be Positive
Life will be a whole lot more fun!
RLN December 2008
Show Positive
Smile a lot!
LY January 2011
STOP, LOOK and LISTEN
STOP:
• Stop dwelling over your mistakes, learn from them
• Stop being negative, you will grow faster being positive
• Stop being unapproachable, you're scaring others away
• Stop with the frowning. Smiles open doors
LOOK:
• To look at your personal attitude, is a tough challenge
• Look at yourself and ask "Am I approachable"?
• Look for methods to encourage others, this will create a team
• Look every day at work and home to make others feel important
LISTEN:
• Listen to yourself. Are you thinking positive thoughts?
• Listen to others, their input may be just what you and the team need
• Listen and digest what you are hearing.
To STOP, LOOK and LISTEN takes practice, but the results will be exciting. This will be for you, family, friends, team, and work. ALL will benefit - learn it & teach it.
Being Open Minded
Don't ask any questions,
If you can't accept the answers!
RLN June 2008
Don't ask for suggestions, If you aren't willing to listen!
RLN June 2008
Being open minded Is good for mental growth!
RLN August 2011
Hearing vs. Listening
Hearing and listening to me are 2 different worlds. Many people can hear, but do not listen. You do not have to be able to hear to listen, consider the deaf.. What if your stomach is growling? You cannot always hear it, but you definitely feel it. So if you listen to it, you intake a beverage or food and satisfy its need.
This I feel was one of our first lessons in life. The words "Don't touch the burner, you'll get burnt." OK, I heard my parents say that, but eventually I had to touch it. Whether it was by accident or intent, I had to touch it. Instantly my listening mode in life became engaged. Listening also engaged a new questioning level, like "what is hot?"
I am hearing impaired which has given me a reason to teach others the importance of listening. What I want you to be aware of is that hearing is done by the ears and listening is done by the whole body.
To have the ability to hear is a gift. To listen is enhancing that gift.
When you are visiting with someone, either casually or in a meeting, do you look at the audience, your shoes, or the ceiling? Then the odds are good that you just hear part of what is going on. If you look at each person talking, then chances are you are listening. Why do I say that? Subconsciously when listening, you are also reading their eyes, lips and/or gestures. By these items you are listening to what is being said and not just told.
People many times aren't aware they have a gift to listen. When they listen, more times than not, a question or...
