Inside the Minds of Men (Written for Women. . . Confirmed by Men) is a book that answers many questions about men that often times go unanswered while in a relationship with his woman. This book makes for a great reference guide for women in search of a better understanding of men, how to spot a good one, and how to keep him!
INSIDE THE MINDS OF MEN
(Written for Women ... Confirmed by Men)By Darius DonteAuthorHouse
Copyright © 2011 The Ascot Author
All right reserved.ISBN: 978-1-4670-6729-4 Contents
PREFACE.....................................................IXACKNOWLEDGMENTS.............................................XIINTRODUCTION................................................XVWHAT MADE ME DECIDE TO WRITE THIS BOOK?.....................XXIIIYOUR MAN IS SIMPLE..........................................1YOUR MAN IS VISUAL..........................................9YOUR MAN IS SEXUAL..........................................17YOUR MAN IS SELFISH.........................................25YOUR MAN IS PRIDEFUL........................................35HE WANTS A SMART, INDEPENDENT WOMAN.........................41GIVE HIM SPACE..............................................49YOUR MAN IS SENSITIVE.......................................53YOU AND YOUR MAN WHILE WATCHING SPORTS......................59CLOSING REMARKS.............................................61ASK THE ASCOT AUTHOR........................................67CONTACT PAGE................................................73PHOTO GALLERY...............................................75
Chapter One
YOUR MAN IS SIMPLE
Okay, let's cut to the chase right from the beginning: if, by chance, you don't read another lesson in this book, I would suggest for you to read this one and become very familiar with it. Your man is a creature of habit who feels he is really not hard to please. Once he has found a method in life that works, it doesn't make sense for him to change. He strives to be a provider and protector, and he appreciates when he finds a woman who's confident and consistent with her behaviors, not one who's erratic with how she approaches a loving relationship with her man. Because of a man's simplicity, he doesn't respond very well to his woman when she displays helter-skelter behaviors. These types of behaviors mean that your man has a difficult time keeping up with you; you are riding the highs of life one minute and begin to argue or even cry with him in the next. He finds that type of behavior odd and sometimes irrational, and is usually left without a clue about knowing how to respond to you when you act that way. Your man responds positively to behaviors he feels are logical and will be quick to fulfill your desires when he feels they make sense. However, if he notices you go through some type of mood swing every other week or more often, then he will develop the mindset of "this woman is just crazy!" and he will look to avoid you in every way humanly possible until he feels you have calmed down and regained your senses.
In most cases, your man is willing to conform to your influences and become the man you would like him to be as long as it does not completely compromise who he is as a person. There were certain characteristics and qualities about your man that existed before you two even knew each another; therefore, it would be unfair for you to try to change him drastically from who he really is. The challenge, however, is for your man to clearly determine which of his characteristics are indeed desirable qualities and which of his characteristics are detrimental behaviors for the woman he's in a relationship with—you. Some men fall victim to self-sabotage, which happens when a man is not used to a good thing and may intentionally try to disrupt his happiness with you in order to regain a sense of normalcy. This type of man is mentally twisted and needs to be carefully examined before a woman considers having a serious commitment with him. As for your man, he does not require too much from you as long as you reference what I call a man's "R.F.L. theory."
The "R" stands for Respect your man; ironically enough, this male expectation seems to come as a surprise to more women than I initially would have thought. A working definition for respect is "for one to be esteemed, highly regarded, admired, reverenced, shown deference, and honored." When it comes to a man's order of importance, he would rather be respected by you before he's loved by you. Think about it. When was the last time your man insisted that you needed to love him? chances are, it's been a while, if at all. If your man is insisting that you must love him, that's a pretty clear sign that he is dealing with issues of insecurity. Now, when was the last time your man insisted for you to respect him or mentioned that he felt you disrespected him? I'm sure you won't have to take nearly as long to answer my second question versus answering my first. Respect is almost as important to your man as breathing is; this became a personal requirement for your man when he began watching the men whom he admired at an early age. Every male your man has ever admired or wanted to be like had a following of people who esteemed him and/or humbled themselves as a result of the high regard they had for him because of his position or title, as evidenced in the way most people treat a man who is the pastor of a church, the CEO of a business, a commander in the military, the kingpin of a gang, or holds some other position of authority. Even if your man does not wear any of these titles, there is still something that exists within or about him which he feels is worthy of others' respect. When it comes to his woman, a man holds her to a higher standard than he does others when it comes to him being respected. Your man's rationale is that out of all the people in the world, he should have you in his corner to rely on. Your man feels that, because he is oftentimes slapped with the trials and ridicules of life outside of his home, the last person he should have to compete with in a contemptuous manner, on a regular basis, is his woman. Your man wants to be your protector and problem solver, and usually takes this responsibility very seriously. By doing so, the last thing in the world he wants to feel is that the person whom he's laying his life on the line to protect is disrespecting him. Your man holds you to a higher account to respect him, and this feeling is generally fueled by the fact that he cares about you more than anyone else.
Your man wants to be viewed as the king of his castle (even if only in his own mind), and he likes the opportunity to fix his woman's problems during her time of need. Your man does not like it when you consult another man to fix a problem before granting him the opportunity to do so first, or even if that other man is your father. Given the situation, sometimes it's best to make your man feel as if he has fixed your problem even when you have known all along that it was actually you who guided the fix. Please understand that I am not encouraging you to lie to your man; I'm only encouraging you to use that mysterious sixth sense you have developed as a woman and strategically guide your man in the direction you want him to go and make him feel like he's fixing your problem. If you are asking yourself, What's this mysterious sixth sense he's talking about? Then perhaps you have not developed this ability yet. I've said it before and I'll say it again, "God put something special in women that he didn't put in men." If you know what I'm talking about, you understand that for you to master the ability to make your man think he's in control of "fixing your problem" is somewhat of an art form, he can't be aware of what you're doing. Because your man is no dummy (I hope), you may have to work at mastering your sixth sense for a while until the art of performing it...
