CHAPTER 1
The Nature of Women
Not all women are created equal. And I don't mean that on just the superficial, physical level. With due respect to all women, everyone (man or woman) is inherently different, each in his or her own unique way. However, this book is meant to highlight the nature of women in particular. It is out of my utmost regard for women and my deep intent to somehow better understand and relate to you as sensitively as possible that I have decided to research and write about the observable facts surrounding your natures.
The content of this chapter is not mere speculation and definitely not hate-inspired philosophy meant to judge, bash, or criticize women. On the contrary, it consists of actual observations from both personal experiences and collective history and scriptures that I hope will be instrumental in encouraging every man to build deeper, more genuine, and more respectful relationships not only with his girlfriend or wife but also with his mother, sister, and daughter.
We can improve our relationships with others by leaps and bounds if we become encouragers instead of critics.
— Joyce Meyer
To Women
My only wish is for you to open-mindedly bear with me and be able to finish the entire book before forming any premature judgment. I sincerely apologize for any unintentional mistakes and flaws. Please pardon my imperfect yet sincere attempt to somehow share with my fellow men what I have learned about women and how to deal and relate with you.
Again, I wish to emphasize that I have no intent to bash or degrade you. Instead, I hope to improve what little understanding we might have about you so that both men and women alike can positively benefit from a lasting relationship based on mutual understanding, unconditional love, freedom, and respect.
To Men
May this book somehow enlighten you and serve as a helpful guide to making the important women in your lives feel loved, respected, and valued. Your words, actions, and general treatment of women will become one of the most important foundations in keeping your relationships stronger. This book hopes to make you better role models to other people looking for relationships or who are in relationships. In turn, the respect for women will be paid forward to future generations so that relationships can be sweeter and longer lasting.
It is my sincerest wish for my female readers that, after having read this book, you will better understand how to find your Mr. Right or how to be in a position where Mr. Right finds you, how to deal with your man in a way that he appreciates and respects, and more importantly, what the duty of a woman is to her man.
Let's begin with understanding the three personalities of women.
The Three Personalities of Women
I've read in ancient Vedic literature that women can be compared to, if not categorized by, three animal characters. Interestingly, I have found such comparisons quite sound and close to reality. However, they cannot and should never categorize or typecast women. Such personalities can manifest in women singularly or in combinations. Of course, men are not exempted and can also show such characteristics.
1. The Brave and Noble Tigress
A tigress is generally viewed as fierce and brave yet at the same time noble and regal. A woman who is like a tigress is equally fierce in her honesty and frankness, brave in her undertakings, and noble and committed to any task at hand. She is bold enough to speak her mind, follow her own will, and tell you outright if and when she is doubtful of your decision or offended by something you may have unintentionally said or done. A free spirit, she is neither timid nor an introvert.
A Tigress Is Independent
After mating, the male tiger typically leaves the tigress to fend for herself through pregnancy and while raising her cubs. She hunts while she's pregnant and continues to do so after delivery in order to support her newborns. She also has naturally antiseptic saliva for disinfecting wounds. Independent and strong-willed, it is her intrinsic nature to accept life's circumstances as they come.
There are many strong and independent women like this. They continue to face problems head-on, even after experiencing otherwise demoralizing life challenges. These women can survive even without the emotional and physical support of men.
Are You a Tigress?
Did you know that tigers are civilized within their unique circumstances? When many tigers share a single kill, the males often let the females and their cubs feast on the carcass first. Fighting over food is a rare incident with tigers. Instead, they patiently take turns.
So this explains a lot in a relationship. A tigress girlfriend or wife would fare better if men are more like tigers in certain circumstances. In other words, a man who shows some chivalry and gentlemanly behavior may be able to tame the tigress in you and help avoid fights. When there is a misunderstanding, you, the tigress will want to win the argument, especially when you know you are right. You want your needs to come before the man's.
Taming the Tigress
While you are tame and well behaved, you may observe that you are quite fearless, carefree, and independent in the playground. There's simply no stopping you.
In order to be tamed, you need adequate space and freedom. You don't want to feel too confined or controlled. Otherwise, you will rebel.
2. The Gentle Cow
Cows are kind and gentle and have a considerably warm nature. Unless protecting their young, they never attack other living beings, not even stubborn flies. They are tolerant, calmly brushing away insects with their tails and patiently waiting for milkmaids to finish milking. Even their eyes express the same gentleness and kindness. Studies also show that they possess an advanced level of intelligence as well as high emotional sensitivity and complexity. In the company of a cow, a human feels no apparent threat or endangerment.
The Cow — A Symbol of Women's Motherly Nature
In Vedic culture, cows are treated with high respect because they are considered mothers. After all, they provide nourishing milk for us, our children, and our grandchildren. Without milk, we could not enjoy the healthy benefits of butter, yogurt, cheese, and other products derived from it. In many parts of India and other Hindu nations, cows are revered as holy mothers and legally protected. If you kill a cow or act as an accessory to the murder of one, jail time can reach seven years.
Are You the Gentle Woman?
Women who can be compared to cows are slow and gentle, not only in their physical movement but also in their behavior, judgment, and decision making. They are sensitive, smart, kind, patient, understanding, not easily agitated — even when provoked or angered — and often sweet, approachable, comfortable to be around, selfless, and loyal. Unlike the tigress, they are forbearing and don't retaliate unless it's critically necessary. They also have no inclination to engage in a war of words with anyone — or any kind of fight, for that matter. They are softhearted and fragile, and it can truly be heart-wrenching to see them cry as silent tears roll down their cheeks.
This type of woman is quite a rarity nowadays. She simply enjoys...
