CHAPTER 1
THE POWER MODEL SYSTEM
You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it, however.
Book of Illusions
PART 1 A Faster and Straighter Path Birth of the Power Model System
Years ago, I thought I needed to hear what other people thought of me and then follow their suggestions. In fact, some of that reasoning still rings true for me today. But often those external observations simply didn't fit, and I didn't have the self-esteem or wisdom to recognize the difference between a rebellion of someone's advice verses knowing who I was. Meaning I did not know myself well enough to determine if someone's critique of me was correct or not. I didn't have a system that would allow me to discover my feelings, thoughts, spiritual beliefs, and resulting actions —a model I could plug my information into and decide what I wanted to change or leave alone.
I also didn't have a system or the tools that would allow me to bring forth all the information I had learned and recreate a new internal system that was cohesive and that worked for me. (Each of us has an internal system that defines how our four human components (physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual) connect and interact with each other.)
Self growth methods I explored in the past included affirmations, grief work, twelve step, and recovery programs. I made progress going into recovery for codependency and work addiction, and that progress eventually led me to teach college-level classes to people recovering from major difficulties in life. This experience gave me insight into our four human components that are part of all of us, and assisted me on this phase of my journey. At one point, I can remember saying with finality, "Now I am okay."
But still, I knew something was missing; growing up seemed just too difficult for others and myself. I knew there had to be a faster, straighter path to maturity.
I wanted something visual, a step-by-step guide, so I would know if I was making progress and could keep track of my own growth throughout the years. I wanted a system I could practice and take wherever I went. I wanted it to work for me time after time. I wanted a system that had a sense of internal balance so that with continuous use I could re-pattern how I thought, felt, and perceived the world and the people in it. While experiencing my soul's journey, I wanted to know my purpose and fulfill it. Ultimately, that meant I would have to stop reacting when life offered me challenges and, instead, act according to my purpose—to become all that I could be. I spent years compiling information, working with myself and my clients to develop The Power Model System. Once I applied it to myself, I became aware of issues that hindered my growth. I was able to make my own adjustments and listen to feedback from others without my insides going crazy. The system brought rapid results, in terms of increasing internal motivation and making permanent changes in behavior. I could re-pattern my brain and change my future. As I matured (don't confuse age with maturity!), so did The Power Model System[TM].
INVISIBLE FORCE
"Invisible force" is a phrase that many of the people I've worked with have used. They say to me, "Kay, I want to change, but there's something holding me back and I don't know what it is." I understand what they're saying. They're not the only ones who experience this force. I also see and hear speakers, educators, counselors, and others trying to work around, under, and through that same force with people they're trying to educate and help. Unfortunately, it doesn't yield the desired results. Because of this invisible force, people are not able to hold on to the new behaviors, knowledge, and feelings they've been taught. This invisible force continues to bring them back to their "old" selves. So the question is, why do people pay money, spend the time, and want to learn to improve themselves but when they leave with the information, they can't apply it in their lives?
I see four answers to this question:
• Every one of us has an internal system developed in childhood that only we can uncover.
• Each of us created this internal system in our conscious mind, and by our teen years it had become part of our subconscious mind.
• This system affects every aspect of our lives.
• This internal system involves four components (emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical). Until you can understand how this all affects you, it is virtually impossible to develop true maturity on a permanent basis.
So, what is this invisible force? First, let me tell you what it is not.
THE 'INVISIBLE FORCE' IS NOT:
• that you lack the desire to change
• that you've neglected to spend time and money learning how to change
• that you lack intelligence
• that you're reaching for something you can't achieve
• that you've failed to apply new information you have learned
• that you're destined to be the same way the rest of your life.
Now that we've established what it's not, let's consider what it is.
THE INVISIBLE FORCE:
• The invisible force is a lack of or imbalance of power within your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual components
• This imbalance causes your four components to work against each other, wearing you down, rather than building you up
• With your components working against each other, you become conflicted not knowing why you are the way you are, how to change, and how to make any change permanent
• Much of this imbalance and conflict occurs sub-consciously.
THE INVISIBLE FORCE COMES FROM A COMBINATION OF FACTORS:
Environment
Automatic Reaction
Defenses
No Boundaries
Cover-up Emotions
Beliefs
The invisible force is composed of multiple factors including your environment, automatic reactions, defenses, lack of boundaries, cover-up emotions, and beliefs. You will have the opportunity to explore all of these using simple interactive activities.
KNOW THY SELF
Sense...
